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    Ember posted an update 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    How can I help those who are depressed when they don’t listen to my suggestions? I want to be a good listener but it’s hard when those I care about don’t seem to think that I do. What can I do to show my venters that I really do care?

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    • Be as compassionate, empathetic and loving as you can @ember1000, let venters know that you truly want to help them and see them happy Ember, share positive experiences that have helped you overcome difficult moments in your life, try to relate to them as much as you can Ember, always listen and understand too, don’t be afraid to ask them…[Read more]

    • Ideally, you could be a listener and never suggest anything, it’s worth exploring how could you do that, as we can’t always fix it.

    • I could be biased and in the wrong, but I think the issue truly is the Venter on these kinds of things. Please believe me when I say I sincerely understand the difficulty that comes with clinical depression. I know how hard it is to do even simple tasks and nobody truly knows how one with depression feels. Even so, I MUST say it’s a waste of time…[Read more]

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    Ember posted an update 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks Oli

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    Ember posted an update 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    As a listener, does anybody get venters who ask personal questions about their life? What do I do in those situations without appearing like you’re blowing the venter off?

    Mood : Discontent
    • I would try to answer the venters questions only if you feel comfortable enough too @ember1000, personally I have never had that in my experience as a listener, but if I did, I would try to share similar experiences with the venter so we can bond and I can try to help them as much as I can, thank you for always being the kind listener that you are…[Read more]

    • I mean no offense to Oli, but I very frequently have this problem as a Listener. I personally don’t share any detail about myself unless it’s relevant to the Venter’s problem. If they want to know my name because they need to know my name (in an ANONYMOUS chat), I simply say, “I’d rather not say,” and accept the possibility of them…[Read more]

    • @ember1000 (assuming we are not talking about people trying to guess if you are the woman they are looking to flirt with, or creeps in general who want to talk about sex for their own excitement) maybe try to answer honestly, keeping it as vague as you feel comfortable with. If you have some specific example it can be easier to answer you.

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