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    aireens posted an update 5 months, 1 week ago

    i realize to have a deeper bond with someone you actually gotta care abou them… and i realize i dont care about others but myself…………how the hell do i change this.

    • You are such a caring, compassionate and lovely person who makes others smile and feel wonderful @aireens, be kind to yourself Aireens and always spread brightness, happiness and joy as much as you can, you will meet someone who you will have a deep bond and strong relationship with, everyone deserves good people around them, you do too Aireens, stay positive and keep going forward Aireens, you can do it, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Hey Aireens, have you ever asked yourself why you feel like you only care about yourself and not anyone else? Once you find that answer you can change. When they say the truth will set you free it applies to a lot of things and in this case, if you find what the answer is you can better handle what it is you want to change or in other words improve on yourself or others.

    • it takes time, take it slowly and don’t punish yourself if you don’t change automatically .:)

    • Good advice from everyone that responded so far. I just wanted to add that you’re correct, in order to create a deeper bond with an individual, there is a need to care for that person. But, caring for someone cannot be forced or manufactured. It will happen naturally when you find someone, you’ll develop feelings and the bond will be a gradual transition. I also think it’s important that you care for yourself, many people I know and/or work with have had difficult lives where they were forced to look out for themselves first, this can then have a tendency to continue later in life. There is nothing wrong with this habit, or indeed with you, as human-beings this survival instinct is programmed into us from birth. Alex.

    • @oliver thank you!! i will try to be positive :)
      @universalwoman ive been asking myself that, im still in the process of it tho but im thankful that you have given me this other way to cope with this feeling thank you!
      @invincible cecelia thank you those words ”dont punish yourself” really lifted my spirits up! i will try and use this as a way to get backup whenever i feel down about this situation thank you!
      @agm24 yes to force myself to care for someone did not really give me good results. i am trying to find my way thank you for this!