- Mood : Bewildered
I apologize on behalf of all of the disrespectful individuals here who aren’t upholding what this website’s supposed to stand for. It’s a shame, but it is the unfortunate reality. Sorry you have to deal with that.
No. It’s not being received as a compliment, and it makes me wildly uncomfortable. Instead of just dealing with it, I’m establishing boundaries in public to try and avoid it in the future – and frankly, it’s not your prerogative to tell me how to deal with it.
Angel – I appreciate it. I feel like, for the most part, there are a lot of very kind and intelligent individuals here. It hasn’t been many, but there have been enough to garner the reaction.
Please don’t let anyone be horrible to you @a-little-hummingbird, members of Blah should treat each other with kindness and respect, anyone who makes you feel bad really shouldn’t be here Maddie, focus on being there for others and don’t let mean people get you down, you can do it, I’m always here if you need to chat, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone (hugs)
Cactus – I didn’t pose it as a question or as if I was seeking advice – I posed it as a PSA. That doesn’t mean you inherently have the right to tell me how to deal with it, and I do not need to accept your opinions if they are unhelpful and unsupportive/are not requested. I’m pretty sure it’s not hanging onto it to post a PSA that tries to get to the root of the problem, but okay. Lol. It’s not easier for me – and I have reasons for it making me so uncomfortable.
Two things, a) I don’t think I’ve written anything that was out of line. I just told you that I didn’t think it was your prerogative to decide for me, and it isn’t. You replied that I should accept your opinion, and I disagreed while explaining why that was. The original post was never up for debate. It still isn’t – that hasn’t changed.
b) You sound WAY more upset than I do. If you don’t want repercussion, maybe don’t impose on your opinion when it isn’t invited or asked for. I was just explaining to you why I disagree with you, and why I don’t think it was your place to say what you said.
Honestly, it feels like you’re offended because I’ve called you out on it. When you hit someone – regardless of whether or not it was spiteful (aka: accidentally or not) you apologize for it. You don’t tell them that they should have accepted it, you don’t tell them that they need to calm down (but sound angry yourself) – you take responsibility and you apologize.
You don’t seem like a very helpful or kind individual.
Furthermore, there is nothing rational about telling people who are hurt or uncomfortable about something to ”let it go” ”move on” ”ignore it” etc etc. That doesn’t solve the problem. What I did should not only make it clear to the people who were doing it, but also the people doing it in the future.
And ”wall of text” is 3 short paragraphs. If that’s long to you, I think that says a lot about your comprehensive ability and intelligence. But for reference, yes, I absolutely could.
A few things – first, it’s not your prerogative (again) to decide whether or not it’s a problem. Different people hold different thresholds and tolerances for different things. That comes with people human – I don’t have the tolerance for people hitting on me excessively. I’ve been stalked and abused before when I didn’t return the affections of someone online. So to me, it’s a big deal, and I’d like to put a pre-emptive stop to it before it ever reaches that point. Second, I talked about abuse as well, which you’ve just conveniently left out.
Third, I wish I could block people on this site (namely you) but I don’t know how. So I wrote that, instead. If it’s on skype or something (which I referenced) – I absolutely will. Added to that, if I stop it before it happens, it’s possible I won’t have to block/feel frustrated with as many people, because they’ll understand my preferences coming into it. That is completely rational.
And I think my comment is super logical. If you think 3 short paragraphs is a lot, then you must have a hard time reading, hindering your ability to learn. Your aim was to try and offend by implying that I wrote a lot, but I think if that’s honestly the case, then it says more about you. I treat people how they treat me. I am very kind to people who are kind to me, but I’m not going to just put up with it if you’re being obtuse on purpose – which you are.
You, however, feel entitled to post your opinion (and on top of that, want it to be accepted), regardless of how logical or illogical it is. You believe that it should be well received, even if it was obviously not well thought out or provoked. If you did this in everyday life, it would not be welcomed by very many people. So if you’re going to do it, then you shouldn’t expect to go unopposed. It was never my intention to sound angry, just to disagree with you – but you’re now taking it way out of hand… which is funny, since that was just what you were criticizing me for.
Finally, telling someone to move on, get over it, not to pay attention to it, to ignore it… those are all very lacking in empathy, and not at all helpful. This whole website is about supporting and helping others. I’d choose to be ”attention seeking” every single time over obtuse and unempathetic.
Yes – where can I find ”settings”?
Never mind, I found it.