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    Fading Echo posted an update 1 year, 5 months ago

    Hey, guys.

    I’m under a lot of pressure right now.

    My friend called me yesterday morning, frantic and hysterical. She told me that her mother was abusive, and that she had called the police on her. She ran out of the house to her homework club and stayed there, where she called me. I offered to do whatever I could, but there wasn’t much. I stayed in touch with her that night after she went home, right up until she fell asleep. She had been at home, locked in her room, and unable to make a sound for fear of being harmed. I offered to call the police, but she refused.

    This morning, she got up and bolted out of the house to school, avoiding her mom. She suspects, however, that her mom is changing the locks on the house so that she won’t be able to get back in. I, of course, offered my house to stay at. However, she goes to a different school than me, with a different start and end time (she’s in middle school), so that could be problematic.

    I remain on standby, checking my phone and computer’s messaging system every five minutes, if that. I’m terrified for her.

    What she’s going through really puts my life into perspective. I’m more depressed than her, but she has it worse off. Maybe it’s true that I’m not trying hard enough. I don’t know.

    Mood : Stressed
    • That’s so horrible @985921sqh, your friend doesn’t deserve to be abused, no one does, you are doing the right thing Echo, always be the compassionate, sweet and caring friend that is always there to support and love her, do get her to open up to you and the police about her home situation, hopefully your friend will find a safe and loving place to stay where she feels happy, comfortable, is at ease and free from harm, keep being the supportive friend that you are Echo and remember to look after yourself too sweetie, everything will be OK, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent Echo, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • You are trying hard enough, you just don’t know the options that could possibly help her. Do whatever you can do to make your friend safe. Texting and calling her is sufficient help for the moment just so that you have regular contact with her and make sure she’s ok. Some options may be risky, but it’s for the greater good to make sure she is in a safe environment at home. Let me know if she needs anything, and i’ll also try to help her as well. Maybe I can’t help her, but i’ll certainly try to at least. Do watch yourself also, as all this could lead to problems of your own that you didn’t want. I know you want to make sure she is safe, but watch your surroundings also and be able to know when something’s not right at all.

    • That definitely sounds like a bad situation for your friend to be in. It’s very nice of you to offer whatever you can to help her. As for the last paragraph, don’t think of depression as a test of worthiness or a competition. Everyday happiness is more like pain tolerance or the ability to eat Marmite. Some people just don’t have it, some people have to work for it, and some people get it without knowing the trouble of it.