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    Fading Echo posted an update 3 years, 7 months ago

    So, my ex went and fucked me up again.

    Here’s the story: He texted me yesterday like ”Hey, want to get back together?” Of course, I said yes. After a couple minutes of processing what was happening, I said to him, “I’m so scared to hope here; I cant believe this is happening.” He replies with, “It’s real, don’t worry.”

    This morning, I wake up, feeling the first positive emotion in maybe three months. My heart was soaring above the clouds. Then, I picked up my phone; everything came crashing down. Sitting there was a single text: ”Actually, let’s just be friends.”

    He’s done this twice now; the ”let’s date again, actually. Never mind, let’s be friends.” He’s broken my heart a grand total of four times. Once when he broke up with me, twice in the ”let’s date – never mind” scenario, and once when he told my parents I was suicidal.

    It’s so much worse now, because all those feelings I’d bottled up and sealed away when I “got over him” exploded last night when he said he wanted to get back together. Now, I have to put them back. The pain is worse this time, though. I have to get over him all over again. So, I added two more cuts to my wrist this morning.

    This has taught me two lessons. First, trust no one. Second, never dare to dream.

    Mood : Crushed
    • He has absolutely no right doing that to you @985921sqh, he doesn’t deserve someone as amazing as you in his life Echo, don’t let him have any power over you and don’t let him play with your feelings and emotions, please don’t harm yourself because of him, surround yourself with happiness and the things that bring a wonderful smile to your face sweetie, focus on all the good things in your life and don’t let him ever bring you down Echo, always be the brilliant and awesome person that you are, you can do it, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • @985921sqh

      Now, I’m going to be blunt, but only because I’ve been in your situation before.
      Drop him and leave him like that.

      I know and understand with all of my entire heart that love is a very powerful feeling. It can thrill you, lift you up in the air, but it can also rip you, break you apart, and leave you shattered to pieces on the cold, hard ground.

      Your heart is saying you want him. Of course it is, you love him. What he’s done to you won’t necessarily change that, and that’s the frustrating thing about love. Sometimes good memories and experiences are overwhelming enough to hold those feelings in place; they allow you to push away the fears enough to accept people back into your life, even after how much they’ve hurt you.
      But really, you need to let him go. That process alone will be a long and treacherous journey, but you need to remain strong. He’s only playing with your feelings at this point. His indecisiveness shouldn’t be your burden to deal with, because, in the long run, the emotional damage taken upon you will be worse than it’s worth. Trust issues will almost definitely be a given and the relationship would probably be built on very shaky and unstable ground. Trust me when I say, he is not worth it. On-and-off relationships are not healthy, not only for the stability of the relationship itself but also for the two individuals involved.

      If he tries to reel you back in again, tell him no. Fight the urge, no matter how difficult, no matter how fluttery it makes your heart sing, no matter what. Because he’s only going to drop you again, and he has no right at all to keep putting you through that.
      I understand it’s probably a difficult thing to hear. You probably wouldn’t want to believe it if he begged for you to come back again. But you have to fight. The more chances you give him, the more he’s going to take and he’ll come to believe that he can continue taking advantage of you. And again, it just is not worth it.

      Lastly, don’t stop trusting and especially don’t stop dreaming. I’ll forever openly admit to my own trust issues (I made mention of this in one of my recent posts, even), but it is still alright to trust. Just take your time with it; don’t be afraid to guard yourself but also don’t fall into a deep pit of mistrusting people. People will always betray you, but that should not define who you are.

      I apologize for the long post, but I’ll appreciate it if you read through it all. When it comes to relationships, I can’t help but reach out and offer something probably longer than what is necessary. I was in a very long and tiring abusive relationship. I offer advice where I can, when I can, and seeing how high your hopes got when you announced that he wanted you back– Well, I know how those hopes must feel now. If you need or would like to talk about it more, my inbox is always open. Again, I’ve had my fair share of relationships, including the abusive one. So I understand.

    • @985921sqh hope you’ll block him everywhere 4ever

    • @devilindisguise, thank you so much for your advice. it means so much to me