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    Fading Echo posted an update 3 years, 9 months ago

    Last night I texted him to remain friendly (per a suggestion from @oliver). It went something like this.

    5:00 PM
    Me: Hey
    Him: Hey
    Me: Do you actually want to be texting me right now? Be honest
    Him: Not really to be honest
    Me: ok
    Me: Sorry to bother you
    Him: I’m at the store trying to get stuff done and I’m loaded with work
    Him: Ok
    Me: Text me when you want to, I guess

    7:00 PM
    Me: Do you want to talk now?
    Him: I can’t talk lately, I’m jam packed with homework and I’m trying to stay on top of stuff. I’m getting into clubs and stuff too so now I have virtually no free time
    Me: So no?
    Him: No
    Him: Sorry
    Him: I just can’t talk
    Me: Do you want me to just shut the hell up and stop bothering/contacting you
    Him: Yeah but don’t “shut the hell up,” I just cant talk to you
    Me: So yeah?
    Me: Okay. Can you text me when you can?
    Him: I just don’t have time anymore
    Me: Maybe when you get some?
    Him: Maybe
    Me: Oh. You think I’m being clingy. Sorry.
    Him: Yeah a little tbh
    Me: Oh. sorry. I’ll just go then, I guess. bye.
    *no response*

    If that’s not a clear message to screw off, I don’t know what is. I don’t know what to do. He said we would be friends, but…

    Mood : Rejected
    • It sounds like he is ignoring you @985921sqh, which is unfair on you, you are just trying to be friendly and maintain a good relationship with him, I would just leave him if he doesn’t want to talk to you, he is losing someone wonderful and special, please know you are a beautiful person who deserves to feel loved and be surrounded by happiness and compassion, things will work out for you Echo, one day you will meet your prince, keep going forward and never give up, stay upbeat and believe in yourself, you can do it, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Thanks so much @oliver. Your suggestions have been so helpful, and your kind words make my day brighter. If you ever need a friend to talk to, inbox me; I’m here for you too. (hugs)

    • Yeah, you don’t deserve this treatment, to be honest. You deserve to be around those who enjoy you and show interest as you show interest in them. I would leave him behind because its unfair to you to be around toxicity. ♥

    • Thanks, @invincble. That makes me feel better.

    • @985921sqh Some people suggest to not even bother talking about friendship with exes before 6-12 months have passed, maybe it would be better to look at his words within that kind of timeline (months), not hours/days, keep busy in the meantime!