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    Erin Kristen posted an update 6 years, 9 months ago

    Well me and bf Mike have a crazy ride of a relationship and recently hes been going to his family parties and gatherings and he wont bring me along. I understant that his family knows about all of our episodes and arguments and how we were involved with court orders, restraining orders. Just a huge mess. So his family knows some of it.
    He pretty much avoids bringing me around his family. i know it might be awkward. but i feel weird that he keeps me out of the picture.
    Shold i say how it bothers me, or have him make his decision when he feels its okay to bring me around them again

    Mood : Uncomfortable
    • I would talk to him about how you feel @shesjustsorad, you deserve a partner who treats you with love, appreciation, care and respect Erin, hopefully he will bring you along to a gathering so you can meet his family, I’m sure things will work out and you will make things stronger between the two of you, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Talking stuff through is always the best. Always, even if it doesn’t seem so. There is great value in knowing where the other is at. I don’t know your story, but if things have been a big mess, that isn’t easily swept under the rug. Talk, and time, the two biggest things in relationships, and dealing with conflict, and so many other things.

    • @shesjustsorad I think is like you said, his family doesn’t want you around. When bad things happen in relationships I always say is fault from both sides quite honestly. But they love him, they are his family and want his best. If you what you say is true and there is even restraining orders going into place… doesn’t look very healthy, at least for now. So I think you should prioritize getting help , actual couples therapy with your partner and forget his family for now. You’re focousing on the smallest problem