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    Milo86 posted an update 7 years, 8 months ago

    Finally made the decision that the father I have known for my 48 years really has no place in my life. We have tip-toed around his behaviors and demons, which is all well and good, but now I have a 10 year old daughter, abused, adopted out of foster care. She’s my world. I attempted to tell my father how to interact with her but he has gotten much worse. He no longer can suppress his depression, control, anger, and attempts to emotionally manipulate others. Part of it is my fault as rather than cut him off, we have tolerated his behaviors in the infrequent visits we have had for many years.

    So that father, that person, can no longer be in my life. He’s free to change, but he’s not free to come around here anymore. My only fear in life is that I go back to who I was decades ago, a younger version of my father. I have overcome my past to be a loving, caring, and what I consider valuable human being. I have a great spouse, a great child, a great job, and overall, I am just super happy. I have my moments, for sure; you don’t come from where I came from and not feel undesirable things from time to time. But I can recognize it and open up to my spouse.

    Life is good and I am just looking forward to my future without an abusive father around.

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    • @milo86 that’s such a brave decision, you should be proud of yourself. I wish you strenght and the best of luck

    • Do your best to move forward with your life and focus on making things good for both yourself and your child @milo86, learn from your past and use it to strengthen yourself, you will be OK Milo, stay positive and keep going, you can do it, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, message me anytime, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • The brave decision was made decades ago. Keep the distance, entertain them a bit every now and then, and then leave it at that. But they got worse, I got better, and My daughter can’t be around it. So it is what it is.