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    Hayden posted an update 8 years, 2 months ago

    I just love how whenever I gain the confidence I need to be ready to come out to everyone in April, a family member of mine destroys it by talking about their ignorant opinions.

    Of course it’ll blow over. I’ll remind myself not to care about what they may think, and to be myself no matter what; not their painted image of me. But in the meantime, it’s unpleasant seeing and hearing them talk about people who are transgender as if we’re a bunch of freaking fakes.

    Don’t criticize what you don’t understand.

    • Do you ever ask why you depend on others opinions? and Why there is any anxiety over it?

    • Your family really should love and support you no matter what @devilndisguise, don’t let them criticize you Hayden, be proud and embrace who you truly are, you are a wonderful human-being inside and out, they shouldn’t judge or be horrible to you or others, you deserve better Hayden, remember this community will always be here for you, try your best to keep smiling, feel free to message me anytime, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • @elian-wonhalf I do wonder it a lot. I feel like in a lot of their cases, they wouldn’t criticize it so much if they knew one of their own family members was one of those people they bad-mouth. But on the other hand, some of them are just too stubborn to thoroughly learn about the situation and change their views.
      My mother is somebody like in the first category, while my father is somebody in the second. I do have hope for her, but not so much for him and that’s pretty scary to me. My family is my everything, and I don’t really have anyone else in my life to go to if I don’t have them.

      I’ll keep trying to look on the positive side, though. I know either way, things won’t be bad forever. At least I hope not, haha. Anyway, thank you, Elian. :) And good luck to you with your decision as well.

    • @oliver Thanks, buddy. :) I’m no longer ashamed of who I am, like I used to be. It’s just a struggle of being afraid whether my family will accept me or not. But we’ll see. Maybe things won’t be as bad as I’m expecting; I am pretty pessimistic sometimes.
      Anyway, thank you, it means a lot. *hugs*

    • That’s really reassuring, @elian-wonhalf, honestly. People can change, especially with the help of those around them. I’m glad to hear they both like him; that’s awesome.
      I’ll keep on hoping. :) Thanks again.