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    larissa posted an update 8 years, 7 months ago

    i asked her to do one fucking thing for me; just one damn fucking thing, and she didn’t even do that. i’m so fucking angry and i feel so disappointed.

    • Is she the one at fault, or is it you?

    • i don’t see myself at fault (this time). i did a lot of stuff today to help her and asked for one thing in return and she just ignored it. she always does that.

    • Have you tried confronting her without anything that can be used as a excuse? (For example, in the bathroom) even if is sounds a bit weird.
      Or a place without any distraction, if her cellphone rings take it away and turn it off or something.
      I’ve noticed (while reading a bit on your profile wall) if she’s not doing her part to make it work, then you may have to force it out. In the worst case, break up.
      Another thing, why does she looks with anger at you? There must be a reason behind it

    • i try to talk to her about this stuff a lot, but she doesn’t want to hear it; even if there’s nothing to distract herself with she just starts ignoring me or she gets angry; most of the time it ends with an empty ’i’m sorry’ because nothing ever changes.

      ah, she has borderline, so she gets angry really fast and often without a reason. she just randomly starts hating me for like fifteen minutes without any reason and after that it’s over again. but everytime this happens she looks at me with this really hateful look; and this happens a lot of times every day.

    • Is there a reason why you’re still suffering because of her? I mean, apart from loving her. Sometimes you need to know when to let go, if you can’t help it, if it doesn’t work anymore (or if it never worked since the beginning) then you should stop being with her.
      Love and hate shouldn’t be mixed together, also, if this is a problem without solution, then it’s a tragedy more than a problem.
      I don’t know exactly if this is friendship or relationship, but you may try force yourself onto her… since you’ve been keeping up with her attitude, then you have nothing to lose.

    • She has no right to be horrible to you @smokygull, I would tell her that you want her to be a bit more helpful and considerate at times Larissa, she really should help you and not let you down, try to tell her how you truly feel, hope things go well, I’m always here if you need to talk, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • a lot of people tell me to break up.. but i’m so filled with love for her i can’t. a reason besides love is that i feel like i can’t just leave her alone, she need me and she needs help. i can’t just leave her during such a shitty time. we’ve been best friends for such a long time, and a couple since quite some time as well, i just wouldn’t feel good with leaving her behind even though she’s like this to me.

    • well, as I said, you may try force yourself on her (kiss her, hug her, and such). Even if she hates or get angry, force her to receive your love. It may make it better, it may make it worse. If you haven’t tried this then maybe you can (I did something like this before, and it worked since we were alone, no external pressure nor eyes, just us).

      Is your life so you do what you want with it, if you see that she needs help then you may try all things possible to make it better, if it doesn’t work after all your attempts, then you may give it up too, even if you love her, you won’t have a decent future with her if it goes like this. You’re getting angry, and disappointed with the situation, that will end up being obsession rather than love. You can stay friends too, no need to forget her or kick her out of your life. About the reason she’s mad, it may be that she have a memory which keeps popping up in her mind, which makes her get angry at you like that, it may be something stupid or something simple for other people, but for her it may be something that is painful and fills her with hate. She may not talk loudly but maybe she’s saying too many things inside of her, not letting it out, and that doesn’t helps her at all, you can try making her talk too.

    • thank you for your advice; i’ll try to talk to her at some place where it’s just us and where she can’t get distracted by anything else, like you said – and i’ll try to get her to talk to me about this stuff. i hope that it’ll work as well, but maybe if this doesn’t work as well i’ll be able to think about my future in this.
      i’m a quite honest and straightforward person, i always speak my thought so it’s likely that i did something to offend her or make her angry so much that she can’t let it go. i’ll try to give myself a limit from this; there’s so much i can do hm.. thank you for talking to me!

    • Hope it goes well for you, and that your relationship with her get a future rather than a regretful past.