Hello new friends,
I have been in a relationship with an amazing, kind, brilliant man for several months. He moved into my home with me one month ago – and has now abandoned me (taken ALL his belongings, vehicles, etc) and left me for the FIFTH time this month. Here’s the mental health problem: He is bipolar, and is cycling so quickly that I can’t keep up. He has been unmedicated for four years and prefers to think he is ”merely” suffering from anxiety and insomnia and being in a bad mood, etc. He is sleeping from 0 – 3 hours per night, and ALWAYS wakes up talking to himself and raging. His life is a mess – he was recently arrested when he was stopped for a broken taillight and it was discovered that he had FOUR different warrants for non-appearance in his court cases. Granted, his life at this point is very stressful. But I was willing to hang in there with him and support him unconditionally – to the point of my own exhaustion.
So, he’s gone again as of Saturday – and not a word from him since. He has moved back to his old, dingy apartment. He did this under guise of having been contacted by his 16 yr old son whom he hasn’t spoken to in 4 years who now wants to live with him – but not with me (he’s never met me and knows nothing about me). Soooo… do I hang in there? I am considering writing him a letter and outlining how much for the good his life would change if he would just take the meds he needs and work with someone to stabilize his life. Should I even bother? Or will his illness keep him from hearing that he is unconditionally loved and that all I want is for him to care for himself and be as happy as he can allow himself to be. Thanks in advance for your help.