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    aims posted an update 9 years, 9 months ago

    Just had a conversation with a Venter for half an hour and he tried to tell me that he was a ’Creative’ and therefore he cannot be friends with normal people because they are boring. Yet he told me he was 24, and still living at home with his parents. He shared his problems about not being able to make friends and that he was very lonely and couldn’t do what he wanted musically where he lived, I suggested he moved to another country and try to find himself and do what he wanted creatively and musically. He then abruptly ended our conversation as he came to the conclusion that i was too normal for him.

    Mood : Pissed off
    • Jerks n losers that wat I called them

    • passing judgement on someone like that does not help them heal. Obviouly the venter is looking for answers outside of himself. Sometimes just venting ones frustrations is a big part of the healing process and what they need is validation because perhaps they come from an invalidating environement. The venter sounds as if he may have schizoid tendencies or perhaps narcissistic tendencies or perhaps borderline tendencies. He may be full on disordered, and disorders are typically in denial of their own existence.

      I feel what everyone is looking for is understanding of themselves and to be understood, which is easier said than done.

      The thing about running off to another country is ”wherever you go there you are” so he would arrive with the same set of issues, while yes he may be in an environment more conducive to dealing with those.

      The path to dealing with these issues is an inward journey. Without doing that inner core work people will project their inner demons onto others which is toxic and akin to being a psychic vampire.

      In our interactions with others it is important to self reflect on our own inability to understand the other person. WHat is it within ourself that we believe ourselves an authority with a solution?

    • I just want to add. I understand where you are coing from with your frustration! You took the time and energy to try to help someone. That is commendable :) I feel like this is an opportunity for yourself to do some self reflection upon your part in the failure of understanding and own it be responsible for it. It takes two to tango and by pointing the finger at the other we are in denial of our own shortcomings and justify it away, which is a form of self delusion. Looking inward at oneself in such a critical light is not easy but necessary to pinpoint the false beliefs we have in ourselves that prevent us from being our true selves whatever that is.

    • You’re completely right with everything you’ve just explained. Having time to re read over my rant, I understand that people are in different situations that I am and that everyone is different. Trust me, I know we’re not all the same. At the time I guess I was tired and needing to vent a lot myself, haha.