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    Angel posted an update 10 years ago

    You know, my mom seems to have this amazing ability to make me feel bad about something I would consider an achievement, and to make me feel worse when I already feel down. But I have a friend who’s almost the opposite. He helps me to realize when I’ve achieved something when I don’t quite recognize it, and helps me feel better when I’m down. But that leaves me wondering.. Is my friend just lying to me? Telling me what I want to hear while my mom simply tells it like it is? Or is he just more understanding and warm when she’s presumptuous and (perhaps unknowingly) abusive? I can’t help but feel like it’s the last one. I’ve noticed over the years how increasingly unhappy I’ve become living here. My first year of college, I would stay at school for an extra 3 hours just so I wouldn’t have to come home. I don’t want to think I live in an abusive environment. I don’t want to be ungrateful towards the person that I owe my life to, but I’m so tired of feeling this way.

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    • First off, your friend is being there for you. He is not lying to you or feeding you things he thinks you want to here. He is telling you how he sees the situation. The issue with your mum though. Both my parents do this same exact thing to me, and it fucking sucks, I know it does… To have your parents view what you think is awesome so negatively like that. But if you want that to change, I think you should sit down with your mum and talk to her. I am not sure of the relationship you have with her, but it’s best if you inform her of how she makes you feel because the truth is, if you let this go on it’s gonna destroy parts of you if not already. Above all, you should be happy with the decisions you make and have confidence in yourself. If your tired of feeling the way you do, take action and change things!

    • I was scrolling through my old posts, and I can’t remember if I ever sent you a personal message to thank you for this reply. So thank you! ^^