kiana. said 9 years, 8 months ago:
Well, first thing’s first. I want you to know that you shouldn’t feel pressured to be in a relationship. They’re a lot of work when they’re done right and it’s certainly worth waiting to find someone who loves and appreciates you and is willing to devote time and energy to that kind of work… versus just rushing into something haphazardly.
Also, I can definitely relate to you when it comes to feeling like “the ugly friend”. I grew up feeling like the odd one out because all of my friends were pretty, dating boys, wearing makeup, while I was struggling to even figure out who I was and I was the only black girl so I felt so estranged from them even though we were friends. I managed to make things a lot easier on myself by avoiding making comparisons of my friends and myself. I love my friends and I know for a fact that they love me, which means we all have great things about ourselves worth loving, you know? It’s all about embracing who you are! It’s one of the hardest things to do but once you learn how to do it, life becomes so much fun because you want the rest of the world to see those things too.
What are some things you DO like about yourself? Also, are your friends nice to you?
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