Would it be appropriate to do as a high school student?
So I’m in high school have been in it for at least a year but like there is a guy that I have been wanting to well have “it” with. I’m not going to go into deeper detail than that but yeah. I didn’t want to get inappropriate with the description
Hello Tyler, you did the right thing in reaching out.
BlahTherapy is a community with people of all ages and from all walks of life, so it is perfectly okay to talk about sex here. This is not a website with a neurotic fixation on PG-13 content. People's lives and problems are not rated. In the words of Sylvester Stallone, "Life can be a very mean and nasty place.", but at the same time, it can be a very beautiful and serene place as well. It depends on what you look for and how hard you are willing to look for it.
Sex is a completely natural part of life, so do not listen to anyone who tells you otherwise. "Traditional" marriage values and bunk educational schemes such as the failed "abstinence-only" programs try to scare young people out of recreational sex and even out of enjoying sex altogether, trying to force you to believe that sex is a creation for a divine will and serves a divine purpose. This could not be further from the truth.
If you are starting to feel ready to try physical intimacy with another person, then do it! Browse around on youtube, there are literally hundreds of informational videos from prominent people teaching young people just like yourself about all facets of sex and intimacy! Google "How to start dating", and look up "safe sex practices". Educate yourself, because society is currently in a bit of a state of struggle between religious and non-religious sex values.
Do not be afraid of your body, and do not be afraid of other people. But keep in mind that "Consent is Key". Every next step should be done enthusiastically because it is understood and wanted, not because it is awkward and rushed, or feels forced. And you always have the right to say "No".
If you'd like to discuss this further, my inbox is always open at http://blahtherapy.com/members/blackholehead/
As long as it's consensual, protected, and you are ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN, you could go for it. But be sure of any cons that could arise. Don't let libido lead you into something that is more trouble than it's worth.
If you believe that you're ready and this person that you're interested in it is ready then you should go for it. Just remember to be safe about it, to talk about what you want to happen beforehand & to not treat it like a huge deal. Remember to take care of yourself afterwards & try to have fun. c:
I do not think that you should do "it". Too many relationships are ruined by doing this outside of marriage or a serious relationship. I've seen many high-schoolers have their lives ruined by not waiting until they are out of school.