What to do about commitments….

So I’ve been feeling depressed and hopeless about my life over the past couple of months, struggling to find motivation to do anything, least of which my Uni work. I have really struggled to keep to commitments I have taken and feel like I’ve let alot of people down. I’m at a point where I need to decide whether to take on new commitments for next year but don’t know what to do! If I commit to some new things it might give me things to do and make me feel more useful. But I run the risk of letting more people down and ruining more for myself if I can’t motivate myself still. But if I don’t take these opportunities while they’re here I know I will have deep regrets about it long-term which will undoubtedly screw me up even more…. HELP!?

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Anonymous

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You sound like you need a calendar program. I really like the Google Calendar. You can log in program in things. Like "Study Time" "Work" "Class" and ad details about them so that you can stay organized. Then when someone asks you to do something say: "You know... let me check my calendar and get back to you." That way you don't have to say "No" right away. You can look and see if you can have time to do it. Having a set time to study and work on things that are difficult will help you stay up on what's important and have time to sleep and be social.

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Swifting

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I understand completely. I have bipolar disorder, type 2. Even though I take my medicine, I tend to get depressed every so often. Now is one of those times. I am a college student, the vice-president of a student organization, a gay-rights activist, and mom. Right now, I'm skipping meetings,not doing homework, not cooking dinner, not circulating petitions, not even posting liberal social justice memes of Facebook (! lol). I feel like a failure and I'm scared, wondering if I can ever live up to my potential. Today, I got an invitation for a wine tasting and buffet dinner with the American association of University Women on May 23. I want to say yes, but I know I may not feel up to it come May 23. I feel like it would be better to say no than to flake out at the last minute. Sorry this post isn't helpful as far as giving advice. All I can say is that I understand.

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JustMe