What Now…

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I was in love with a boy who hurt me so deeply that I felt as if I would never fall in love ever again (it sounds dramatic but I feel very deeply). Our paths separated and everyday I sat wishing he was there, but then someone else came into my life and changed everything. That other guy made me feel like I was nothing, nerdy, ugly, but this new person made me look in the mirror and feel beautiful, inside and out. I fell in love with him. Not just because what he did for me, but because he was the most amazing person I’d ever met. We didn’t tell each other that we liked one another but finally ended up together, it lasted a week because let’s just say I became sacrificial and did something I shouldn’t have. We broke up, he moved on, I didn’t. He got used as a rebound, cheated and lied to especially by his most recent girlfriend who cheated on him and tore him apart so terribly that he changed forever. He’s become this cold depressed and grieving guy-totally different from the person I fell in love with. I couldn’t stop him from changing, I could only watch, and I didn’t tell him how I felt until two years after we broke up/graduated, I sent him a letter, he responded but things led to me deleting him off facebook and not talking to him until a year later when I re-added him and talked to him through my best friend. He’s been through a lot and so have I, he told her (me) that he was going to talk to me but he never did. At first I was mad but then realized how hurt he must really be to care about someone and not trust himself or love enough to take a chance. So I talked to him, and well no response still. It’s not like he’s out dating/hooking up with random girls, so I know he’s just not interested, but I also don’t know what to do, he kept my letter, he holds me in high esteem, yet he won’t talk to me. I’ve loved him for four years now and I just want an answer. I don’t know where this love story stands anymore, or where fate wants us to go…

Category: Tags: asked July 7, 2014

3 Answers

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I understand where you are coming from, trying to reach out to someone and being given no response. I don't have the answers but i will offer you some advice, you can not make him talk to you, so try to stop worrying and devoting your thoughts to him. Be persistent though, message him if only to reassure him or yourself that you still care. But do not let it eat up all your time, you have a life so go live it. Be patient and maybe he will sent you a message one day, thanking you for not giving up on him.
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Just give him time to clear his mind and answer. You shouldn't worry too much about it, as you said, if he has you in a high esteem, he'll definitively at least answer. Also, you chose where you want to go, not fate, fate has nothing to do with anything. You're always master of your own choices and actions.
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Like you said, he moved on. You've got to do the same thing, you didn't break up for no reason.