What do you do on dates?

I’ve been dating this guy for about two years, one year of which I actually got to be face to face with him. (We were long distance, always skyping until I moved.) I feel like I should be disappointed, but we’ve only been on one date. I always see people on sitcoms and movies having fun on dates, but I don’t know exactly what you DO on a date. What we did that one time was sitting back and watching a movie. No kissing or anything. Just watching a movie on the computer and then doing our own thing.

Maybe I’m becoming disillusioned about relationships or maybe it’s my cluelessness in the dating world, but I’m wondering what the point of a date is. Is it reserved only for before you’re officially boyfriend-girlfriend? Is it supposed to be like a special quality time?

If anyone has any ideas about what to do on a date, that’d be great. I apologize if I feel like I’m rambling. I’m still kind of scatterbrained these days.

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Snow Leopard

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In my opinion, a movie is not great for a first date. It only works if you are comfortable together physically and want to get closer by cuddling. It doesn't encourage talking, which is what you need to get comfortable together. For a date I'd recommend a shared activity, where you are both doing something similar and can talk about it when you aren't comfortable just conversing. Then that can lead to talking about yourselves. If talking together makes you both smile, you may end up touching each other's hands or hugging, but if you move slow it might not happen on the first date :)

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woollyjumper

I agree with the person above. Watching a movie doesn't allow you to have a proper conversation, cause you're focoused on the movie, not in each other. Why not go to eat some ice cream? Maybe go out to eat? Something that make you guys actually talk. Also, answering your question about why dates are important. Dates are amazing because you get to know the person better, you get to have fun together, and it's the beggining with flirting -if everything goes ok and you both feel like it. If in the next date everything goes well, why not try to hold his hand? Small steps, but big achievements :) I hope I could help ^-^

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mariko

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Dates are a good way to bond and keep things interesting in a relationship. There are lots of great things to do! You can:

-take a walk or a hike
-cook a meal together (like make cookies or a pizza!)
-plant a garden (bee-friendly flowers are best!)
-play on a playground (play tag or groundies!)
-visit a museum (make up new stories about the exhibits!)
-go on a picnic
-go to a performance (like a movie, sporting event, play or a ballet) and then discuss it over dinner afterwards
-go to an amusement park (if you get there early, ride the rides in the back first!)
-play laser tag
-sing karaoke
-go to an aquarium or a zoo (find the top 10 weirdest creatures there!)
-rock climb
-play mario kart (don't kill each other)
-go star gazing
-watch a sunset
-play a board game
-take a dance class
-go midnight bowling
-plan a prank on your/his friends

and more!

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sylph-dancer

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