What are other ways to cope instead of selfharming ?

Firstly you are AMAZING! Making it 3 months without doing anything that is something to be so so proud of!! =) As a recovering self harmer myself I know how hard it is especially when your triggered and in this case it sounds like you're a little worried that your depression will trigger you. There's some good suggestions by others here and you can always try out some of those type of activities but I also know that at the time when all you want to do is self harm going out for a jog really might not be something you can do. Some things that have helped me and others I know include - writing on your skin in red marker. - pulling on a hair tie with the metal bit on it on your wrist. - writing out how your feeling in a diary. - draw/paint in a diary, no matter if it's just angry scribbling. - scream into a pillow. - listen to angry music and sing along loudly if you can. - Call a friend, or even just come online to talk to someone when you're really feeling triggered so they can distract you. - play games/read/watch movies.And make sure you don't have any access to the things you have used to self harm because aslong as they're around you always have a bigger temptation when you're triggered.If you ever need someone to talk to please feel free to message me hun :) xo

When i was depressed, i would find a notebook of mine or some form of peice of paper and write down my problems. it really helped because for me, i felt like i could reflect on the problem to see what went wrong and how i could have maybe avoided it or fixed it. Other times, i would talk to my older sister or a close friend about my problems. I agree with JSV Rexual, working out is a great way to cope with your problems. So with that said, you could write them down or talk to a close friend or family members or work out.

congrats on three months :) i self harm and some coping skills i have learned to help combat the urges have been exercise, focusing on something other than the negative thoughts like -listening to music and focusing on one aspect of the song (vocals, drum beats, guitar) -counting the ceiling tiles and floor tiles -saying your name backward -counting down from 10 and back up There's also see 3 hear 3 feel 3, think about three things you see then three things you hear then three things you can physically feel taking a cold or hot shower, even hearing the water helps me taking a nap or seeing a funny youtube video going for a run or to the gym helps too :)

As a disclaimer, I don't have any first hand experience with self harming, but have witnessed it with friends of mine in the past. First, I'd suggest trying to find someone who is reliable and understanding, whether it be here or someone you're close to, that you can talk to when you may have the urge to self harm. I know in the past with them, just talking it out and getting their mind off the desire to self harm was helpful. Aside from that, making a promise to do something specific that you've predetermined when you're thinking about self harming might be helpful. This could be a number of things such as writing in a journal about why you're wanting to self harm. This will keep your hands busy and getting the thoughts out of your head onto paper can be therapeutic.

These may all be stupid ideas that don't help you in the least, but aside from that, know that I'm sorry you're feeling down and I hope you can find a way to overcome the urge to self harm. :) I'm always happy to chat anytime I'm around as well!

Edit: Without making an entire new post, I'd like to second Rexual's statements, exercise is an amazing stress reliever all of the time whether in a state of desperation or you just want to let off some steam before things get too bad!

I agree with exercise. You can really get a lot from that. Gets you out the house, fresh air and your body releases hormones that I think are similar to the ones you get from self harming. I think 3 months is very promising and you are on your way to being an ex-selfharmer.

You also have to make sure that what you replace is not harmful. I used to take hot baths... very hot baths. This worked very well for me but not very well for my skin lol so instead I did the elastic band on your wrist thing which worked some days but by that time I had learnt to cope with life and keep myself busy. But I found having time to myself in the quiet was just as important as putting on my favourite metal band and singing loudly th to. So you find what you need. We all got different things out of self harming and did it for different reasons.

As they have said, great job on the three months (: Other things: holding an ice cube, petting an animal, maybe fixing something around the house, getting a favorite pop or something, Laying in the sun, clean something, homework, etc. I'm also around to talk and have my own story with SH, so message me anytime.

Working out - yes! It's so euphoric after I've done great cardio and strength for at least an hour. It releases endorphins that boost your mood and make you feel like you're on cloud nine. (that and masturbation, but I've already addressed this in another thread and people seem to correlate it to drug addiction, so whatever)

If you don't like to run or don't have access to a gym, there are plenty of dance aerobic exercise videos available free on youtube that will have you sweating and feeling great by the end of it.

I also use video games as a way to get my mind off of things as it's completely mind-numbing. First-person shooters are fun and are great ways to left off anger without actually hurting yourself or anyone else for that matter.

Believe me exercise, reading, writing, movies, tv, anything to take your mind off it.