So I met a guy on here idk like a month or two ago. And we talked a lot for a while and he lives across the damn country. After a while I started to actually like catch feelings for him and I felt really stupid for it because, again, he lives across the damn country. I stopped talking to him for a while because I dont know what else to say and I don’t really want to feel that way about him anymore because I know it’s never gonna happen, but I feel so mean and I actually still have feelings for him. I got to know him and he got to know me and it was the first time in so long that I’d actually opened up to someone so easily. But, I just dont know what to do. Help?
You can't know that it would never work. And if you had even the slightest chance of being happy with him, why would you completely dismiss it? All the crystal balls in the world won't help you. In the end you have to listen to your heart and at let yourself be happy.
Even if it doesn't go beyond a platonic relationship, you still owe it to yourself to try. Yes, he may live on the other side of the country. He's also what seems like a really good friend but more than that, someone who actually listens. And you deserve someone like that, we all do. Don't push him away in fear of things ending badly before anything really has happened. At the very least, you've gained a really good friend and I'm sure he likes talking to you as much as yourself.
But if you decide that you don't want to do it, he deserves to know why. Don't just stop talking to him. Give him a choice too, maybe he wants to work this out. Communication love, a relationship always fails without it. And hey, who knows just what might happen in the future.
If anything, just ask yourself this; Am I happy talking to him? Does it make me feel good knowing he's there?