I have a male friend who has being acting strange around me recently. We met a couple of years ago. We were extremely close for a while. We always had a strange connection between us. We are the boy and girl version of the same person, and our lives parallel each others in strange ways. We used to stay up all night talking, and I will admit, some sexual stuff happened while I was on a break from my boyfriend. He admitted that he was starting to like me (although I think he was exaggerating/lying), but then i got back with my boyfriend. He started avoiding me then, which is understandable as he was scared of bumping into my boyfriend and feeling guilty, but then we worked it out and things were ok again, although we weren’t as close as before. He assured me we would stay friends, and that he hadn’t only hung out with me because he fancied me.
The last time we hung out properly was 6 months ago. Since then, I had a health scare and some emotional problems which meant I became very withdrawn and antisocial, and I didn’t get in touch with many people either. He also didn’t contact me.
I just saw him at a party and at first he was all happy to see me, but then as the night wore on he started seeming really distant and bored by me and kept commenting about how I kept speaking to loads of guys at the party and dancing with people (which is what you do at parties!), like he thought I was attention seeking, and like he was talking down to me for it.
He didn’t even say goodbye properly.
Now, I shouldn’t be bothered because we’ve drifted apart and he was kind of acting like a douche anyway. And maybe I should accept that our friendship was a one time thing, he came into my life for a reason, but now he’s leaving my life, and that’s just how it goes. But there’s still part of my mind that I can’t shut off, I want answers and I want to know why we’re not close anymore, and he’s acting weird. BUT i’m too shy/proud to ask or initiate conversation.
Should I just leave it? Is he being off with me because the friendship never meant anything to him and now he’s not interested because I have a serious boyfriend? Am I just clinging on to the connection we had, when I should really just forget about it? Or should I try and regain the connection we had?
This annoys me cuz normally, my friendships come and go and I’m not too bothered, so I don’t know why I’m feeling like this about this one situation!
