Super Lazy or Depressed?

Hi there, I’ll try and get this all out without fumbling stuff up and being confusing. I’d just like a few opinions on this, I know this isn’t a place to get a diagnosis by any means. The thing is, I have a lot of trouble making myself do even basic tasks. This is mostly in regards to work for school, but happens otherwise too. It’s like when I’m faced with anything that requires effort I’m just unable to will myself to do it. I know I can do it, I have the skills, but when it comes to facing the task head on it’s just nearly impossible to make myself do it at times. With homework I’ve started just neglecting it altogether because I can’t muster the motivation to get it done. When I’m confronted with this I end up just taking out the work and stare at it, which causes me to really stress out, and sometimes I can pull off work that should take 20 minutes of solid work in an hour or longer. Most of the time is spent idly staring at the walls daydreaming about nothing. Getting up out of bed in the morning requires a lot of effort and I only do it because I don’t and to upset my aunt. I just don’t have any motivation.

Concentration has been another hardpoint, and when things are being explained to me, for example in class, I have a problem with helping my mind I’m the subject and I end up in an annoying self-absorbed daydream.

Look, I don’t think I’m stupid, at least not any less than the average bloke. I have big dreams for the future, and as soon as I’m out of highschool I plan on enlisting in the army. That sure won’t happen if I don’t get the motivation to exercise or even pass school in the first place. I failed 8 out of 12 classes last year, and it’s so damn frustrating to see everyone around me just passing so easily. I’m a sophomore in high school now, and I need to stop this.

On top of this, I’ve just been feeling down. I don’t know how to explain it, it’s just like a weight on my mind I guess that just makes me feel sorta… empty. I don’t think I feel sad, but I have no idea. I don’t know if this is normal or what, like if it’s how everyone feels and I’m just overreacting, but it’s how I’ve been feeling for awhile. I’m not trying to excuse my problems with a possible thing such as depression, if I’m really just lazy then I would like to know that. I just feel like it’s more than that.

Category: Depression asked October 7, 2014

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Esper

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Sounds like a combination of depression and ADHD to me. They're frequently comorbid and you sound a LOT like me in High School based on what you've posted here. Find a psychiatrist, get tested, get on meds as appropriate. Proper treatment makes a night and day difference, believe me.

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Mechalith

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Yes that is depression...I just had a bout with mine. A dr can get you tested and get you on your way with meds and whatever counseling you may need.

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You have depression, I've had it, and you have all the symptoms, get help from a pschyologist, a good one, not a quack, it really helped me

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Dung

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Thanks for the answers. I have a tiny bit of a problem though - I'm scared. I just can't muster up the courage to talk to my mom about this because I'm afraid that I'm just fabricating this entire thing or overreacting. I just don't want to be considered attention seeking or stupid. My mom will take me seriously so I don't know why I'm hesitant, I just am.

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Esper

I will tell you that you are not alone (like everyone else). This question has probably helped me more than I could help you. I still don't want to accept this being a depression as the word is being tossed around so often and I'd rather admit to being lazy than potentially lying myself into a disorder. I have failed my studies, I find it hard to get up, I delay things, procrastinate, often just idle around staring at something, feeling the weight of my otherwise athletic body which is going out of shape day by day. What keeps me from telling myself I'm just lazy is the fact that I have been serving for almost 3 years with rigorous discipline and done hard low-pay work of which I'm still proud. The fact that I'm dedicating my time here to answering questions (which I genuinely love) tells me that something is still there. Whenever I am with friends, I'm different. When I helped a friend move, I was back in my element. Sometimes I'm doing mental tasks on my own account but I couldn't get myself to do the study work I needed to do, so I failed two semesters and quit. I can't get myself to buy groceries, replacement parts, open mail, just stand up. Constantly sleepy and like I have no inner drive. But whenever I have a friend over, I start cleaning up and doing so much stuff I just can't get myself to do....I think I will do the same as you were told to do and get myself checked. Also, I have been obsessing over music lately, it keeps me alive, so even if it doesn't further my progress in the career world, I'm going to jam with people whenever I get the opportunity....Also, for feedback, can you tell me if you have had a feeling of not having been able to accomplish what you wanted to? Besides school and chores. Just something crucial, like missing an opportunity that you keep pondering about? Or the feeling that there is nothing to be proud of? It just came to mind. Your post kinda clicked with me.

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DuctTape

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Definitely sounds like depression. My depression started sophomore year and I pretty much failed the majority of my classes that year. I wanted to deny having "depression" so I didn't tell anyone. All of my friends and family noticed though. My mom told me I should get help, but for some reason I took that as an insult to my intellect. I realize now I was just an idiot and let my pride get to me. The sooner you get help, the better. You don't want it to get worse.. trust me. Tell your mom, she loves you and will care for you. Don't worry about her not believing you, I had the same worries with some people. Explain that it's what you need and that you want her support. Stay strong my friend, as said, you're not alone with this and there are ways to get better. Medication is one route, I'm on medication, but seeing a psychologist and maybe developing coping skills and behavioral therapy. If that doesn't work alone, then medication in addition will help.

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Viceman

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Come play some league or watch anime with me and i'll help ya have a smile

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dearestxchelly

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