Social anxiety?

So lately I’ve been having this impulsive and paranoid feeling that everyone I encounter and/or am friends with just secretly resent me and my actions, or are just annoyed or fed up with me. I feel like I have a million colleagues but no REAL friends. I used to have “real” friends (or at least I thought I did) until they ditched me because they thought I was annoying. So from then I’ve just been trying to find my place among the crowd. Now, I don’t feel like I belong anywhere or can enjoy anyone’s company. It’s either they don’t like me, or I don’t like them. Do I care too much about finding true friends? Or is just how high school goes? I asked my parents and older siblings about this, and they said it doesn’t matter because after high school I’m never gonna see them again and everything will get better. But I don’t really care about afterward, cause I mean I’m here right now, and right now it sucks. What do I do?

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Anonymous

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Try not to worry too much. As Gail says, very few school friends remain. I never remained in touch with anyone from school and just have the odd contact with some on facebook now. You will find closer and stronger friends as you get older, be that in college, through work, or other things you are involved in.I agree also that it is important that you do not change who you are to suit others, as any friendships you make by doing so will be artificial and not last. As time goes on you will be exposed to a wider variety of people and make friendships that have substance and last. My best friendships are with people I have met in the last 10 years and I am 36.

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Academic77

Look, as rough as this sounds - no one will be that close during high school. At least, that's my experience. It's much, much more important to worry about yourself and your grades. I'm nearly out, I've only a year or so left in high school (Junior year) and I wish I hadn't been such a worry wort socially. At the end of the day, not only will you not see them but high school isn't a popularity contest - it's a "do the best you can academically and work with the community" contest. Just be yourself, and if you're happy with yourself and you're not failing something - you're good. :) The best friends are those that come to you, or who YOU enjoy. High school is mostly about you and how you work with others, not who likes you the most or who's talking about you behind your back. Let them talk, and prove them wrong. I assume from your post that you're a Freshman so I hope you don't let this hinder you. You're a wonderful person, just for being you. <3

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Archonicus