So…college

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Im 17 and im a first year college student
i just recently shifted to another course at the same time transferred to another University and im catching up on the subj i didnt have in my prev course
the thing is i want to transfer again… to the Uni i was in the first semester…
im very confused because in the first place the reason i wanted to go home was fear of failing my class cause one, people keep on telling me how hard my previous course is and how only not more than 10 people survive it untill internship so i got really scared and i panicked ,now i really love the course im in but my mother and i are not in good terms when it comes to college discussion (she always cut me off by interfering when i talk about my desire in going to the college in different place ) and my parents arent the only ones paying for my college its also my eldest sis who has her own family with 2 kids and i dont know what to tell them… i dont want to sound like a spoiled brat or make them think that im not committed to college. theres also one thing im worried about
if they let me transfer i would have to catch up on 4 subj that i couldnt take in my university right now and 2 of those subj are major i know i should take summer classes on this but im not even sure if they offer this for summer classes and im too scared to ask by calling. these are my thoughts everyday if im not doing anything or when im about to sleep, im really scared and confused.
i apologize if my thoughts are a bit scattered im not really good at expressing myself through writing or words : ]

Category: Tags: asked December 22, 2014

6 Answers

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I totally understand you, I'm in a similar situation, but what I'm doing before changing course is waiting and see if I really dislike what I'm studying. For your same reasons, I'm too scared to tell my parents about me that I want to change course, they're the ones who are paying for my college, and I always avoid talking about what I'm doing with my mum. But you know what? Just do what you feel. If you're sure that your course doesn't interest you, then it's useless staying and studying what you don't want, and even though you're scared to face your parents, take a deep breath, and talk to them. Don't think about the money, because one day you'll repay them, think like this. I wish you good luck!
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I think you should think about the pros and the cons of your choices. Aside from your desire you also have to choose the one that more beneficial for you. Like how will your life after you taking one of the uni, which one will makes your life steadier, etc.How to say this.... For example, I had two dreams; become an architect and become a teacher. Being an architect surely will makes my life steadier, and the job itself also more "sophisticated" than a teacher. But study of architecture requires more energy, more time, more money. So does the work. I'm a traditional, someday I wanna get married and have children (fyi I'm still a freshmen :D), and I believe a wife's ultimate priorities are her husband and her children. I doubt I can fulfill my duties as a wife and a mother if I become an architect so I'm choosing to become a teacher instead. Its not like teachers aren't well paid, they're stable job with good payment actually. But if you compare teacher and architect, architect will win by far in terms of income. Teacher is less uptight than architect, I'll have more time to spend with my family.So what I'm tryna say is you should know your situation and condition and how you want your life to be and which one of the options will help you more. BUT if you really don't like what you're studying now (even though from what I understand is you actually kinda enjoying your major now, correct me if I'm wrong) you have to tell your parents. Maybe they'll get upset to you, but its better than having you're parents disappointed with you bcs you're failing your grade later. Sorry for the long post! Hope it can helped you
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To be somewhat lost and confused at your age is not unusual, so please do not beat yourself up about that. My suggestion would be to sit down with the relevant family members and tell them. University is a new experience for you and expecting someone of your age to pick a path that will determine their income and economic status for the rest of their life is a huge and unreasonable demand, yet is is a demand that the education system makes of everyone every year. You do not have the life experience to make that sort of decision, so switching courses until you find something that 'clicks' for you is normal, even desirable. I am an old man of 57 who has been a soldier, a television and radio presenter, a print journalist and is now back at university working toward a doctorate. I spend my days surrounded by girls of your age who are just as confused and lost as you are. As well as tutoring them in English, history and academic writing, I also spend a lot of time using the classical Freudian psychoanalytical technique while speaking with them about their state of mind. You have made it clear that you cannot continue on your current trajectory. All that stands the way of fixing that is the fear that you feel about the reactions of family members. Step back and look at the larger picture. The course that you do is going to affect the rest of your life. Do you want to continue in a course that your dislike and move on to a career in which you may be miserable because you fear the reaction of a couple of family members? That is not rational. Tell them. Say that you are sorry, but you have been finding your feet in a confusing and demanding new environment, which has been overwhelming for someone of your age. Say that you made a bad decision, ask them to forgive you and ask them to support you in changing back to course A. I would also suggest that you defer until the beginning of the next academic year, because the catch-up game does not work. You need to achieve the best possible GPA to be among the graduates who will be able to have a career. Give yourself the best prospects, do not place yourself under unnecessary pressure.
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i am 17 too and had this same dilemma.. Forget about the money and study hard... Anything is possible
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wait first let me get this straight. You are from this Uni "A" before you transferred to this Uni "B", and you want to back to the Uni "A"? Is that what you mean? Sorry but I want to make sure, english isn't my first language tho
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Yes @blueberrycheese you are right (english is not my first language too so im really sorry if my explanation is kinda messy :D )