Should I end things with him?

I met a guy online like 3 years ago, and we have had an on and off thing for about 2 years now. We live 5 hours away from each other as I am at school and was 2 hours away from May to August. We saw eachother 3 times in about a month at the end of the summer (I had a thing with another guy for the other part of the summer). He asked me to be facebook official about a month ago and I kinda sorta didnt really give him an answer. I found him on POF and created a fake account (I know I went Crazy) and talked to him through it. I asked him what he was looking for because his profile said friends and he responded 95% friends and 5% hookup or dating, also stating that he “doesnt seem to get any loving”. I stopped replying after that and now I dont know if I should end it, or confront him, or ask him about our relationship status? Help!

Category: Dating & Relationships asked October 7, 2015

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End it. I mean, you feel kinda hesitant on going further (you even started having feelings to another guy) and then you pretty much lied to him (by creating a fake account) and talking to him. And obviously his actions talked for themselves too. I think he also felt unloved, cause after so much time you being kinda "...idk about this" must be confusing to him. In summary: break up. Do you guys a favour and don't hurt yourselves even more.

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mariko

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I don't think you are right in only blaming him. You guys live five hours away and just think how much you hang out. If you think there is something between you two then you have to help him realize that and so far I don't think he is into anything. So even if you confront him or end it or whatever, I don't think he will have any effect on the matter and he will just easily move on. If you want something to happen then you have to step up and make that happen.

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Jai

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If it doesn't feel serious, don't pursue it. If it's something you feel there could be a future, see where that road will leave you. But don't let him use you for whatever purpose he has. Do you want it to be serious or not? That is a question only you can answer.

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Vex

If you didn't agree to be exclusive (was that what being official on Facebook would have meant?), the POF thing you did doesn't count (it was also super creepy). I would say do each of you two a favor and end it.

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rinseandrep

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Can I just add that pictures on his POF are ones that I took of him, and he knows now that I am not with anyone, and he has had this account for a long time, haha he felt unloved? yeah right

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I agree with what the above has said, if it doesn't feel serious, then just end it.

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JricePlayzHD

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Sorry I asked for advice I realize now anyone on the outside like everyone here is won't understand the situation, thanks for trying but you all have bad advice.

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