Should I confront my mother?

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My mother has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for about 6 months now, and I’ve never really liked him much. It was never really based on any specific reasons, it was just a feeling I had.
Anyway, my mother is not a rich person, and although she has a job, she would not be able to raise her 3-5 kids without her boyfriend.
This is important because I’m thinking about confronting her about her boyfriend; he recently punched my older brother unprovoked over a stupid altercation, which caused him to move to my father’s house. In the same week, my mother’s boyfriend has also hit her, and I want to tell her to get her priorities in check and leave him. But i’m not sure if it will leave her and the kids in an even worse state if he leaves. He was drunk when he hit her, although I’m not trying to justify if.
(Sidenote: I am a teenager not yet of legal age living with my grandparents in the same state as my mother and father. I visit both my father and mother frequently. My only other biological brother and sister currently live with my dad and mom respectively)

Category: Tags: asked May 25, 2014

3 Answers

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You are just a part of your family as anyone else so you have every right to confront your mother, but even though this is her life and her decision, it's still having a major impact on the people that are closest to her so what I think you should do is talk to her about it, ask her if this is what she wants and if shes okay with everything thats going on. You dont want to have an argument so just make sure you let her know that you're there for her, i'm sure it must difficult for your mother and as long as you guys talk it out and come to some sort of understanding or agreement everything will be okay. Stay strong.
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I think that you should confront her about it and ask her to see your point of view when it comes to their relationship. Although money is a very big and important part of everyday life, it should not be the reason for staying with someone who abuses you. Physical and emotional abuse is never acceptable, no matter how close you look into it. It creates a negative effect on the life of everyone involved. It affects the future.

Which is a bigger problem? Abuse or money? For me, it's abuse. And I hope you can see what I'm trying to aim at.. Money, you can find ways to get it but with abuse, there's no other way around it than leaving the person who's constantly doing that.

If you would like to talk, just send me a message. I'll try to help you as much as I can or if you would like me to simply listen, I will do it. Good luck!
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I wouldn't confront her about it without speaking to someone else first. Otherwise this might cause more violence to be directed at her (or your siblings). I would first seek advice from the grand parents and the biological father if you haven't already. Voice your concerns with them and go from there. They'll have a good idea of what to do I'd imagine. Domestic violence is a serious issue and needs to be addressed promptly.