Should I choose to be with my friends, or online boyfriend?

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We broke up for few days then we got back again, we’ve been together for almost half a year. Though we never met in person but I love him so much, it feels so much than online, but my friends want me to break up with him. They would ask me who I rather choose and I would say both and they hate me for it.
I’m in a group of friends that includes 4 people, yet, they are really sarcastic though they care for me but most of the time I can’t tell. They would say something that will hurt my feelings or insult me, and I can’t fight back. They tell me what’s right what’s wrong but most time I feel like I don’t fit in. Sometimes I even think to myself if they are my real friends or not because I feel more like a second choice or someone to run to when they need something.
But with my boyfriend (though he’s online), he makes me feel so happy, he would care for me a lot and I trust him. I know he really loves me, I can really tell and I’m happy being with him. My parent knows about it and they support me, but my friends only want me to breakup and choose them or choose him and lose them. They would always comment sarcastically about me on social media (FB, Twitter), and my boyfriend also wants me to stop being friends with them.

Category: Tags: asked March 14, 2015

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Be careful here, you don't want to ditch people you know in person for someone you never have met. But as it is sounding, your "friends" don't sound much like friends at all. If they are making you choose maybe in an odd way they want was its best for you, but suck at showing it. The person online could be someone that isn't real, they could be fake, you can say a lot online, swap photos, and you wouldn't have a clue that they aren't real. Where as your friends you can tell them that what they say hurts, you can see them in person, and you can judge their intentions, I say give your friends another shot, use caution when pouring out your soul to someone online, or even be willing to make some new friends, and try being with someone who is local/near by. :) Not that online can't work out, you just need to exercise caution.
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Infinite Shadows, if my significant other had friends like that, I'd want them to stop talking to them, too. I don't know if you missed the rest of her message or not but her friends aren't good friends.

I think you should stick with your boyfriend and work to find new friends. I've been in and witnessed multiple relationship online that were great relationships. Don't let that stop you. Your friends sound very toxic. My friends are extremely supportive of me and my long distance relationship, they love my girlfriend and are glad I'm happy. That's how friends should be!
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So you're willing to give up your actual friends, who you have been in the same room with, to continue a virtual relationship with somone you've never met? I think the choice is pretty clear. Relationships require more than chatting, texting and swapping photos. You're never going to be happy with a virtual boyfriend because too much is missing in such a relationship. Your friends just want what's best for you.I don't know why everyone has missed the last sentence of her question. The so-called boyfriend wants her to ditch the friends. You're beating up on the friends for an ultimatum and giving the boyfriend a pass for doing the same thing. Does not compute.
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I have sarcastic friends who care about me too, however there are people out there that wouldn't be sarcastic and openly care about you. I'd try to look for those people. As to the boyfriend, it's fine to love someone on the internet, just be sure that they are who they say they are. Definitely try to meet up at some point in the future. If your friends are just being rude about the whole thing, they aren't really your friends. There's a difference between concern and friends that want to control you. Decide which kind they are and then go from there.