she’s talking to me again….

so far 2014 has been a real shit year for me…..

around the end of last year, I was talking to this girl from Scotland and….we hit it off pretty quickly.

we flirted allot, talked about ether her flying here to Chicago or me flying over there to Scotland, called each other cute names, had the VERY same taste in music, our birthdays are VERY close…

and we agreed that we where more then friends…

then around Christmas…everything died down…she stopped being all friendly with me….she played minecraft more then she talked to me and…I even asked her if she still had feelings for me….she said “I don’t know “.

….after I told her I couldn’t take that for an answer..she said LDR sucks and..she just wanted to be friends (Merry Christmas to me….-_-) that broke my heart…..

talking to her was the happiest I’ve been in a loooooooong time….so I was pretty butt hurt about it for a while..it’s 2014…and I still am…

allot of my friends said I was played with….and I felt like I was…..she broke my heart….but I still have feelings for her….

I mean sure, the thought of dating other women in entering my head….I mean…I live in Chicago…there plenty of women here…..but I’d feel like I’m lying to myself….I still think about her…allot…

then….last night…she messages me…during 2014 (so far) we only talked…once a month….

January…she message me on Skype cause she made a new Skype account…
I tried to have a full convo with her but…it ended pretty quickly…

February…(Valentines Day can suck my balls btw) we only had a convo on the comment section on a Facebook photo she posted

now it’s march… and last night she messaged on Skype…it was a friendly convo..

god it was nice talking to her again….

but that night…when I was sleeping, I had a dream where she and I hung out together… I took her out to eat and I also took her near the park by my house….

then I woke up…

I still miss her….I mean I know it won’t go anywhere with her cause…1, she lives in Scotland..and I live in Chicago…and 2…I think she has a boyfriend…in Switzerland…I know Scotland and Switzerland are really close but…….doesn’t that still count as a long distance relationship?…Idk maybe I’m over thinking it…

how can I get over her?….I don’t wanna keep hurting over this…

Category: Dating & Relationships asked March 5, 2014

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Robert Koredelewski jr

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Well, who says it needs to be all or nothing? Why can't the two of you just be friends? Understand that it is not an intimate relationship, and still be open to other opportunities - but no one said that you can't talk to her. She was probably a bit scared at the depth of feelings you had when it is a LTR. Be friends first - it will either run its course and you will realize friends are ok, or it will deepen. But do understand - until you are in a committed monogamous relationship, you are not being untrue, nor lying to yourself - you are giving yourself an opportunity to live life rather than sit and watch it go by. Good luck :-)

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Lemon Drop

Well, if she keeps playing you like this, then cut off contact from her permanently. If your going to keep hurting over this issue that's gone on for a pretty long time, I think cutting off contact would be the best thing.

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Rimiir Green

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If she keeps doing what she is currently doing, then you are always going to end up hurt. She is only talking to you when it is convenient for her. You said she might have a boyfriend in Switzerland (?), maybe she talks you when when they are fighting, he can't talk, he's busy, ect.You live in Chicago. Live it up! You will be able to find a girl that is close by who wants to have a relationship with you. And won't treat you like this girl is.

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tweeks

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dude I had this same situation...so similar... just cut off forever with it. She just liked the attention and you will get hurt. the sooner you do it, the sooner you will recover. it's very hard, I know it, but you have to wake yourself from your own dream. don't even try to remain in touch or whatever...or she might play with you again. If you ever care about her, leave her. cut off all connection. It's for your good.Good luck.

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