she said she cant make decisions without actually knowing how she feels

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there was this girl I’ve been talking to since November

that month was a great one cause me and this girl where flirting with each other and talking about cuddling and having crushes on each other and stuff like that…

the beginning of this month was interesting…I asked how she felt about me and she said that she likes me but the last LDR she had ended badly….(she lives in Scotland and I live in Chicago)

but she would like to wait till a chicago comic book convention called c2e2 and cuddle in the hotel room….AND we decided to be more than friends…but not boyfriend and girlfriend….(yeah figure that one out)

but as this month passed by…things got….pretty boring to be honest.

she was playing minecraft with her friend online and she’s working really hard to
make the server awesome…ok I understand that. I asked her if she’ll ever return online on skype and she said soon…and I was like alright

weeks later….still on minecraft….and said skype soon…….ok ?

days later…same shit…..I got annoyed

I asked her WHY YOU NOT ON SKYPE….she said this…doing the same thing every night gets pretty dull…

-_- are you fucking kidding me?!

WHAT ARE YOU DOING EVERYNIGHT?! PLAYING MINECRAFT!

I didn’t say that but I wish I did

anyway..then maybe one of the saddest things that ever happened to me this year came….

she told me she might not be able to make it to c2e2 cause the job that she wants to get won’t open till march or april…..c2e2 is in april….

I was…heartbroken about that…but she seemed like she was too

I said when I’m at the hotel room I’ll skype with her and she seemed happy about that…and she also said 2015 is a hell yes

then….she stopped flirting with me….stopped calling me cute…and just….barely talked…

I felt like I was smothering her so I tried giving her space…..yeah that was fucking hard….

I couldn’t do it…I kept talking to her…..

a couple days ago tho… I had enough…I needed to know where our relationship was going….

I was asking her on on facebook if she still had a crush on me?….her answer….

“hrmmm…tbh I dunno :)

I was telling her I needed to know…I tried everything and she won’t give me a straight up answer

it was pissing me off

then she just went offline…..no…no, no NO chance in hell I was gonna let it end like that…

I sent her a long message asking how I need a straight up answer…..

this was are convo when she woke up

me: I’m sorry if I stressed you out..?:

rachel: not just you
me: …I just…can’t really take “i dunno” for a answer..if you don’t wanna talk about it now that’s fine

rachel: I just cant make decisions without actually knowing how i feel…

staying just ‘friends’ is the only option i see right now. why? because, ldr’s mostly end in both people getting hurt

me: well what to you mean “right now”…you still need time to think?

rachel: just, dont get your hopes up about me getting to the cons.

me: I was gonna say….I liked our idea of us waiting till c2e2 to make a decision……but if you can’t make it this year then….what happens?

rachel: theres always next year!

by next year.. i mean 2015

me: I know but…..that kind of far away lol

rachel: well, don’t think about eachother like that

me:that’s gonna be tough lol…..cause of how our convos use to be and all but…..I guess I really can’t make a decision until I see you in person

rahcel: exactly! c:

me: I mean I would still love to fly over there in Scotland and hangout with ya but…I’m not sure when I’ll get a ob and how much I’ll get paid….

rachel: doesnt have to be soon c:

me: so…I guess the safe answer is….wait till 2015..

rachel: yess c:

well, don’t wait

me: what do you mean?

rachel: don’t hold out on other opportunities, is what im saying

me: yeah….you still have a special place in my heart tho…I don’t know about you tho but.I just hope you know

rachel: you do, always will! c:

me: well in that case…that makes me feel allot better

still tho, I do miss our old convos….I hope they can come back around soon but….I do hope your having fun on minecraft

rachel: i have a lot of groups to keep up with, lol

me: that I know noticed XDwe still miss ya…even tho you where in like…5 of our calls XD

rachel: XD

me: I remember nate was like….so…whatt she’s never getting online again then he farted

rachel: xD

ill get on again!

just cant be on as often as i was

me: that’s gonna suck but…I understand lol

just let me know when ever you get online on Skype ok?

rachel: yeep!

i shall

c:

me: sweet c: ok…I’m gonna get some more sleep cause…I barely got any sleep last night so lol

Rachel: awee

well sweet dreams
me: ttyl

that was our full real convo….I got some sleep after that…..then I remembered something

she use quotations when she said the word friends

“staying just ‘friends’ is the only option i see right now”

what the hell does that mean?!

I even asked her when she got on steam

RCKgaming: so can I ask you one more weird question? when we had our talk earlier…you said this “staying just ‘friends’ is the only option i see right now”…what did you mean when you quoted friends? lol
A Simba To Remember.: nothing o.o
A Simba To Remember.: i just meant
A Simba To Remember.: like
A Simba To Remember.: idk
A Simba To Remember.: XD
RCKgaming: ah you meant idk.
RCKgaming: KNOW I GET IT! -thumbs up-

so yeah……I don’t know what to do….this is killing me…I still really care about her….more then she will ever know…she came in my life when I needed someone to talk to….

I was getting over another crush that ended up messy….

I was getting depressed…then she messaged me about my old live stream shows I do as batman….

if you want a taste of how crazy I am here you go

anyway…..I know most people would say move on but….I still feel like She didn’t exactly give me a straight answer

She’s still slightly dodging bullets

there’s gotta be something she is not telling me…..I just wish I knew what

I am still in love with her…and I believe she was as well….we always talk to each other everyday….even if where busy before we go to bed we message each other saying goodnight…and she did tell me she had a crush on me!…she talked about cuddling with me in stitch kigus and watching movies…

and I felt like she was serious about me…she really wanted 2014 to happen……and yeah she did say hell yeah to 2015….but…Idk….I don’t it to die down..I’m trying to be strong here but…I’m not gonna lie…I’m getting teary eyed thinking about this

I want things to go the way they where…..but before I do anything stupid…..

I need advice….help?

Category: asked December 18, 2013

2 Answers

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hate to be so blunt but you gotta move on ...and be more succinct.

my impression is she doesn't know how to end it with you. Did not need to know every detail on how flighty she is... mostly because she's not committed to you and does not want to be. You'll still care about her and it will still hurt, but she's right you can't get your hopes up man (not just about the c2e2). its too unlikely and will only cause you grief when it doesn't happen. if she really wanted you as her man... she would not put you off til next year.

don't feel too bad about it man... we've all gotten the brush off before. there's someone out there worth your time and energy
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I would suggest that you try to form a relationship with someone in your area, at least in your hometown. This girl really doesn't seem to be a girl worth wasting your time with to make your girlfriend (not to mention that she's on the other side of the world) and it obviously seems like you care for her company more than she does of yours. If you really want to date someone soon with similar interest I'd recommend to join multiple compatible relationship websites and search people in your local area of Chicago like eHarmony, Zoosk, PerfectMatch, or Plenty of Fish:which was where my older brother and my now sister-in-law met each other. They were just married on December 7, 2013 they met two years ago & instantly began dating the day after they online-chatted :) from a dating website. Please take advantage of the technology we have now. It's good for the busy, shy and picky people/ or people who just feel awkward when it comes to finding someone to date. Good luck!