Parents? Society? Me?

Why do I always feel judge? I feel like my family is always judging me and my friends are always judging me, and a lot of of times that makes me judge me. I don’t know if that makes sense.
Have you ever heard ‘Welcome to our Society! Be you! Now change everything about you.’ I’ve seen that a lot. Or people don’t judge you society does. Wouldn’t that still be people? Cause the people make up the society.
My friends don’t accept me unless I’m like them or do what they want. Same with my parents, grandparents, school, and everything else. They just want to mold me into what they want. It seems like society does that. I always hear that our society will let you be who you want to be, but in reality they just try to change me and make me feel bad about myself.
Do you guys have any thoughts?

Tags: #life #confused #huh Parents society what's going on asked July 1, 2014

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Amy

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Okay. So.. SOCIETY SUCKS. I've struggled so much with this. I tried to fit in, in order to not be judged. But then I was judged anyway. It's really tough. So one day I said "SCREW THIS" and just let go. I opened up about how screwy my head is, and yeah, people judged me. People judged me for my depression, selfharm, eating disorder, weird quirks, awkward style, music taste, EVERYTHING. There was judging everywhere. But then an amazing thing happened. I still had four or five amazing friends. Then I knew what friendship was, and what it means. Friends will stick with you instead of judging you. So I say, BE YOURSELF. Don't get annoyed when people judge you. Embrace it. It can get to be kinda fun. I know this sounds weird, but trust me. Just be you. It's so much easier.

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hobbyesque

in my opinion the statement, just be yourself, is very general. everyone judges to a certain extent, it's just how we look at people and that's okay. if you try to be yourself though, if you act different that's okay too. It might throw people off at first, but then they will either accept it or leave, the people that leave were never worth it. The ones that accept it will make awesome friends because they have see the real person in you and embraced it. :)

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The Curious One

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Not to be to "momish", but remember something. Believe it or not, your parents were where you are. We were 15. Going though the same things. Trying to decide what to do with our boyfriends, lives. Pissed off at our parents for suffocating us. Wearing stuff we shouldn't have and trying things. I remember planning my escape, my move. I was going to move so far away and screw them. Be yourself. Continue to be yourself. Fuck everyone. BUT love your parents and respect them. They do want to protect you.

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SerenityNOW

Thanks yet I hear that a lot and, it still seems that people just don't seem to understand.

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Amy

that's how society and our parents are unfortunately at this moment in history. it's hard to break free of that stigma and that shell they put us in. jesus said your biggest enemy will be in your own family, and the biggest obstacle to the kingdom of heaven is the people you live by. just food for thought. don't give up. you have to keep going. it takes a shooting star to break the mold, that's a smashmouth quote.

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kbd2005

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