Okay, not sure..(sexual question)

Of course it's okay. Many people want to get to know people before they feel attraction towards them. Actually, some people identify as demisexual - they can only feel sexual attraction after having a strong emotional bond with someone and I think that's what your situation is called. And it's perfectly fine :)

That's not uncommon at all. I am that way as well, just less on the sexually attracted and just more on the physical side. It's not weird or unhealthy but quite the opposite. I hope I have helped! Good day!

That is "demisexual".

well i think that would count as making love where as intercourse spurred by instinct is what you would call sex

I can be attracted to a stranger "on first site" but rarely does it go beyond the thought/feeling of "If I got to know this person, I could really go for them!"...Even as a man, I still want an emotional connection before I am very sexually attracted.

Cool, I found out the term. Thanks, Jonathan. That's me as well, and it plays a large role in my bisexuality. It's not really a problem, and it's saved me from a lot of horrible sexual decisions. I've pretty much only slept with people I would actually enjoy spending time with. I really feel nothing to the point that I can't bring myself to flirt until I've built enough of a connection with a person to be attracted to them. Enjoy, you'll probably have a much more functional dating life than most people.

Aha, okay thanks!