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I don't consider it one way or the other. If I'm to the point of having sex with someone the last thing I'm thinking about is what they've done in the past. When you're confident in who you are and what you offer, from my perspective, it becomes unimportant.

I don't think its very important to know exact numbers or other details. What you do need to discuss is sexual health. Have you been tested? How often do you get tested? Have you ever gotten any abnormal results? Etc. You can have one partner and still catch something terrible. Most couples I know don't want to know the details of their partners sexual past, but some couples don't mind knowing and comparing, so it really just depends on the comfort level of each person.

If I've learned anything about sex, it's that every new person is an entirely different experience. Even someone who has been with several partners may feel just as anxious as someone else who may not have any experience. Like everyone is saying, the past is the past. Your body count/number of experiences don't affect your future with someone you care about. I personally would ask my partner his count, because I like to think I'm in an open relationship and know and can accept everything about my significant other- unless it was over ten. Then I would just prefer if the answer was "Too many to talk about," without going into details. I think it's okay to touch on the subject, but don't fixate on it. It won't interfere with your current relationship :)

I can explain the situation with my boyfriend... he has had up to 60 different sex partners, the first thing he did is lie to me because he was quite ashamed about it and he really wanted to have a serious relationship with me so.... I got mad at first but then I realised that really the past is actually the past! It really doesn't matter who has been with him, but it's not useful to ignore it, see it as a part of him that is over now. It actually acted in my favour because he knew lots of things that he should do with a woman and made me feel more safe.

My last boyfriend told many how many people he had slept with, after realising I had been with more people, I just avoided the topic. It never ever came up in conversation.. But if it ever did my response would have just been "just a few" The past is the past & nothing can change it. No one should be judged for their past, especially if they're a different person now. But unfortunately there still are some shallow minded people out there that will judge you on the things that can't be changed. As long as you're both clean & faithful, it's only just a number!

I don't care about the number of sexual partners of any potential partner. What I care is that this partner had been taking all the right precautions to prevent contracting an STI or STD that could also infect me. A girl could have been with 200 men before me for all I care, if she is healthy and I like her that 200 could as well be 2 or even 0.

HoneyBun, I think you need to recognize that the number of sexual partners someone has in NO way indicates their level of faithfulness or honesty. By generalizing you are shaming anyone who has had sex with more than a very small number of partners. And no, having multiple sexual partners or even cheating does NOT indicate mental illness. And a person can have a large number of partners and still be clean if they take precautions. Likewise a person can be born with a number of sexual diseases or catch sexual infections without having sex. Please, HoneyBun, don't shame anyone or generalize. It can be damaging and make others who want to speak up afraid to do so. You had a bad experience with one person, that one person can in no way represent every single person out there.

@HoneyBun Perhaps you have a mental disease and you should check yourself out. If your girlfriend cheated on you with 2 guys in 2 months then that means that you are inadequate as a "boyfriend" and she simply had to go out and get what you couldn't provide. Simple as that mate! You can be as stubborn as you want about it, if you don't come to terms with your shortcomings and seek to fix them women will always cheat on you and then leave you.

And to completely answer your question, no, I would not lie as I have nothing to hide. I love my sex, I love getting pleasure and I love giving pleasure (more than I love getting it really) but I am always taking precautions and have done blood tests to ensure that I am still perfectly healthy.I don't think any potential spouse of mine would lie to me about her sexual history as I'd first make sure to let them know that I don't care so much about the number of her past sexual partners but more about her health status.

i have like the wost sex history i have a sex diary and im only im a "whore" i only hade 1 guy but we had sex 13 when we was datelining(3years) now that we are spit we still had sex for that one year so what i killed a baby -.-

I have had 1 partner in my life. And I am a guy. so... And again the greater issue of a lack of commitment. i mean OBVIOUSLY if she couldnt settle down before nothing is going to change so you are setting yourself up for heart break.

I ABSOLUTELY CARE. I mean if they sleep around you don't wanna be with them. Because they will leave you for the next person they are going to sleep with. My EX-GF cheated on me with 2 guys during a 2 month period. Anyone who says they don't care is DISGUSTING. Even if they don't have a physical disease they obviously have a mental one. Which can be way more serious.