So I’m a bisexual guy, and a few weeks ago I finally managed to come out to all of my friends.
I got mostly positive responses – some were pretty crappy but I’m pretty happy with their reactions and they’ve been really great to me, and helping me hide it from my family, who disagree with anything LGBT to be honest.
One of the people who knows I’m bisexual found out a few days before anyone else, because at a party out of town I got drunk and started fooling around with another guy. Problem is I wouldn’t want her to know if I had the choice because she can be very fickle and I was afraid she’d tell someone.
A few days ago I was talking to one of my friends, and once they left she came over to me saying “I was hoping I’d miss that big loser, but with his size I doubt I’d ever be able to miss him”, so obviously I defended him and told her that she was out of line making jokes about his weight. This is not the first time she’s made fun of someone’s appearance, she also points out when people have greasy hair, or acne and makes really hurtful remarks.
She told me today that she’s been a good friend by not telling my sister about my sexuality (as they’re friends), and if I don’t wanna have my sister find out I should be more polite to her and let her “tell it how it is”.
I really need her to back off about my sexuality and my process of coming out, but at the same time I’m not gonna play best friends with her when she’s going around making fun of people’s appearances and making snide comments! What should I do?