My friend found out I self-harm…?

First off, let me say I'm so sorry that you had a bad day. We all have those. It seems as though your friend actually cares about your wellbeing (not like let's call you out just for kicks) and you should take that into account when making your decision. You can either be straight up with him/her and say yes and be open, but only if you feel comfortable. If you don't, just tell him/her you don't feel comfortable taking about it and change the subject. S/he should understand especially if you two are close. One of my close friends found out I was depressed by my tumblr likes and confronted me about it. I ended up shutting her out and I just got worse and worse until I finally told her and I instantly felt better because I had someone to rely on.

When my friend found out I told her that I was trying to work on stopping it and she didn't need to worry. It was really difficult for me to explain but I told her the truth. I said cutting makes me feel a physical pain that helps me forget about all the pain I feel inside, it's a distraction from my emotions. I can control the pain when I'm cutting but I can't control what is going on inside my head and what I'm feeling emotionally. I'm sorry that this is vague but I hope it helps.

Trust me, she is not all the time thinking about your cuts when she is with you she even maybe hasn't thought about it again, just relax, because you will have your reasons and honestly who cares, no one can judge you and if she asks just say what you would like to be answered if you did that same question to someone, maybe a "It's a bit complicated" is sufficient or give a more complex answer if you feel comfortable with that. Please don't harm yourself, you don't deserve that done to you for sure :P lots of love <333 and good luck ^^