So, I’ve been dating my boyfriend a while now and because he’s still rather young (14) and his mother is very protective, he has to stop talking to everyone/get off the computer at 10. From the time I get home and talk to him up until 8:30 we talk on skype (which is the only thing of his that his mother doesn’t go through and read), but after 8:30 she has set a rule for him that he MUST talk to me on facebook so that she can monitor what is being said.
A few days ago, she accidentally read a message on skype from me to him that said that I disliked her methods. Because of this, her and my boyfriend had a long discussion and she wanted him to talk to me about it.
My boyfriend, as a whole, has told me that he feels like his mother and I am fighting a tug of war over him and I completely and wholly agree, but I don’t know how to fix the situation. Help?
EDIT: A large reason why I feel so bad about this is usually I let my boyfriend tell me what’s bothering him, but one of the few things that has ever frustrated me truly is the way that he gets treated by her. He says that his frustration is the fact that it feels like we’re battling between each other for what’s best for him, so I don’t know what to do. We hardly get to see each other in person, so I dislike feeling censored by her. The only reason I even feel censored is because I can’t say what’s truly on my mind without her reading and judging me for it, and then because of that, giving a speech to my boyfriend and putting him under pressure when there’s nothing he can do.
If there’s nothing I can do to fix the situation, then I at least need to know how to cope with this situation.
