Love or Family?

You jsut started uni, you just got your first job. You met your girlfriend less than a year ago. You woulnd't even be living alone with her, but with her and her father. Are you sure it's not safer to stay where you are? Going on an adeventure might sound exciting, but first think about school. Graduate. Your family is always going to be there for you, but you and your girlfriend..you can always break up. And you're not old enough or financially stable enough to get by on your own. Wait until you are. After that, you can move anywhere and do anything and if something goes wrong, you'll have a safety net. A degree, savings...

friends come and go, family is forever.

If you're in college, then why wait until you're out of school and then go? at least then,you'll have saved up a little bit more money, and have a diploma in whatever it is you want to do,which will make it much easier to find a job in California. another option you can look into is to look into getting your current credits transferred to a college in the area you're going to and continue your schooling there. then, there's the issue of whether or not your girlfriend really does have a job lined up for you(i doubt an employer in california is going to hold a job for you for 3 months), so are you sure she's not feeding you a line of BS to get you into california? You can know somebody for nearly 4 years,be engaged to then for 1 and a half of those years and not know somebody, let alone less than one. if you got all of this figured out, and you know you got a job and going to finish your schooling in california, then go for it! but if you're just winging it on the word of a person you haven't even known for a year, then I say you stay where you are. if she loves you that much, then she'll wait for you and understand, but if she continues to insist and even stakes your entire relationship on waiting 3 and a half years, then obviously I really don't think it'll work out for you and likely wants you there for her own selfish needs,which isn't love.

It's your choice, don't let ANYONE sway you. Flip a coin. Say, heads is stay in Kansas, Tails is move to California with your girlfriend. But what you get doesn't mean you have to do it. You'll know what you want to do right before you look at what you got. (Buuuuut personally, I think you should go for it and move out to Cali. Don't let me sway you) x

Don't let your family choose for you. If you love this girl and really want to live with her, do it. I have faced this exact kind of prejudice. Just do what you feel is best for you.

you should really follow your heart! Family is important but you don't live your life for them. Doing something as big as moving from Kansas to California and moving in with a partner is a big step, so think it through and do what you feel is right, not what your family think is right.