long relationship question/ opinions

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I am married to a guy I honestly dislike 80% of the time we have been married for 2 years and rushed into marriage because we were both military stationed at different bases and wanted to be together. We got together and it was one thing after another with pretty much just fighting and arguing and we even had to go to counseling. then like almost a year now he got kicked out and has just been living in my apartment not doing a thing he got a job for maybe 2 months and then quit he doesn’t clean unless i come in and yell and is just such a waste of space his presence just pisses me off like its as if i have a grown ass child he has completely turned me away from any sort of relationship. Ive asked for a divorce multiple times and he refuses to sign them. I allow him to stay because i feel bad for him and i think its heartless to just kick him out. He is currently trying to get into the police force and has his pt test tomorrow is it wrong that I’m hoping he gets it so he can move on and leave my life.

Then another part I went home a couple months ago and ran into an ex that i still have a lot of feelings for and we began talking as friends you know catching up and i came back and we were talking a lot and he expressed how much he cared for me and missed me and then after a while i barely hear from him and i feel like he’s constantly lying and i don’t know why is it safe to say he just told me what he thought i wanted to hear.

Category: Tags: asked November 3, 2014

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I think it is time for you to move on. Judging from all that you have said and been through, you know this already. Regardless of what is going on with your old ex, you need to handle the here and now before you approach the future. If you don't act, things aren't going to change, it will continue to stagnate and then it will spoil. I wish your ex all the best in the world but I don't thing the love you two once shared is still there. good luck tameka.
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i think its time you take decisions for YOU now ... its nothing to bad to be a little selfish at times, and if ur marriage isnt keeping you happy then u shouldnt hold onto it for any longer ... as far as the ex is concerned, i suggest you leave him too cuz if he cant assure you about his feelings then he isnt the right guy. Just move on and make a fresh start :)
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Kick that jerk out of your apartment and dont get too involved with your ex if you dont trust his words