keep trying, or move on?

Im usually a pretty passive person in relationships. usually men approach me and they are very upfront about their feelings and the relationship progresses as such. men I am in a relationship with usually pick the dates, times, text me continuously during the day, and are very obvious in their interest.
I had a random urge to be outgoing one day, and I talked to this cute guy I met while running errands. i got his number and we went and got coffee, lost track of time and ended up talking for three hours. and we text each other, but sometimes he will not reply for entire days. I dont know if he is busy, or not interested. he didnt make a move for physical contact, and he hasnt asked me on another date (but he offered to go grocery shopping with me cause he likes cooking). he did mention that he does not like to be too foreword with women because he is worried about coming across as aggressive (he’s a feminist i guess?)
Im just not sure if he is into me, or if I should move on. Ive known this guy almost a week, and he seems a bit passive. Im just not used to being unsure about interest.

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Kitty

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Maybe you should ask him out. Make it casual but clear. :/ Lets put some spice up in that awkward salad. Definitely. But he does have interest or he wouldn't have mention meeting again. and he did warn you of his problem with being forward. If you feel you want more time to find out. Lets do it! You go girl. Sweeten things up. Heh cooking puns

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Soulfound

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If he's seen you being approached even slightly aggressively before, and he's already not a very forward person, he might not only feel the need to hold himself back from flirting physically, but also naturally ease away from approaching you head-on.If he's not comfortable with talking about it, then wait a little while and see if you can notice anything now that you've made yourself aware of this issue. Otherwise, you might just want to bring it up yourself, by asking him out yourself, instead of waiting for him to initiate something, like you normally would with the other types of guys who seem to be interested in you. He probably will not initiate anything on his own.

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qoveqkyun

The important thing is that he mentioned wanting to see you again. He must find some interest in you, or else I doubt he would have done that. Like you said, he told you he doesn't like being too forward with women, so that might be why you're unsure. You're not used to that, also like you said. If you're really worried about it, I wouldn't move on from him right away like that if you're into him, because he may actually be into you too. Check with him first before doing anything.

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Hayden

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