Just need to vent out >.

Hi Olivia,

I'll address your concerns in two parts to make things simple. First of all, stress can be really tough to deal with at your age, but there are plenty of outlets you can try so that way you're not tempted to "scratch" anymore. If you aren't involved in sports already, perhaps you should do tryouts sometime and see what fits you best. Another helpful exercise is breathing. When you feel you're about to lose it, just stop and take three deep breaths before doing anything else. If the urge persists, you may want to tell your parents and have them ask a doctor for help.

Concerning how to let down a guy gently, you may want to take a more direct approach. Although you can send someone to give him the news for you, it would be terribly impersonal, wouldn't you agree? Let him know how you really feel. Tell him you just don't feel the same way, then leave it at that. It doesn't need to be anything flashy, just say it like it is and hope for the best.

And I will be hoping the best for you! Best of luck with managing your stress and your boy issues. And if you need any more advice, the community here at BT would be more than happy to help.

Well he hasn't told you that he likes you so just ignore it. Maybe it's just a little crush and he'll get over it. If he directly tells you that he likes you, just tell him that you don't like him that way. Simple as that.

About the stress, please don't claw your face. It doesn't help and it hurts, try some breathing exercises to calm down. Breathe really deep breaths for a minute and just focus on your breathing. You can think more clearly after that.

I think if he hasn't told you directly, then maybe he doesn't actually want you to know and telling him you don't feel the same way (in any way that you would do it) might embarrass him. So, until he tells you directly, I wouldn't say anything. If he does tell you directly, then you should show him the same respect and tell him that you do not feel the same way directly. Tell him the truth and if he doesn't respect that then he isn't a very good person anyway, so you shouldn't feel bad.As for the stress, I know how that feels. I went through the same thing in middle school, so before it escalates to something even more harmful, try to find things that you like to do that may alleviate stress. I started dancing in middle school, and that helped replace a lot of my stress and get rid of it. Try a sport or a hobby, or even find someone you can talk to (even on here) when you are stressed.