I have been self harming for almost a year. I have cuts and scars on my legs and arms. On the last day of school I was thinking of going to school in shorts and a tank top. Its the complete opposite of what I usually wear. I want everyone to see what I’ve gone through. But I’m afraid I’m just going to get a target on my back or be labeled as an attention seeker. All I want is for more than one person in my life too know, but I’m scared on what it could actually do to me if I do it. I just want people rethink who I am. I usually am funny, spunky, smiley person who gets along with everyone. But doing this could possibly ruin everything. Its tearing me apart on whether I should do this.
That would take major guts and would be positively crazy. You know the concequences well enough, knock yourself out. Better way to get help would be to take a close friend or family member aside and try telling them, but if you really wanna take the risk and do it, and think the result would be worth the risks, don't let me stop you. Someone might drag you to the hospital though, or a psychologist, and drag in your parents, could you handle that too?
Look I'm not trying to be a jerk but I never understood the concept of cutting. What do you get out of it that you feel the need to do that to yourself? It's absolutely beyond me that people get to that point, and I'm not trying to be insensitive.
Second, if you do cut and have felt the need to show your pain through scarring your own body, bringing it to school would be the last place you'd want to bring it. First of all you will be ridiculed, you will be made a target and you will be brought in front of a counselor who will call your family who will be embarrassed and not only that but they will likely make you see a therapist, which in reality if you are cutting yourself isn't a bad thing. Still though, it is social suicide. Here's something to consider: keep your dirty laundry at home. Meaning: if you have issues like you are experiencing, bring it up to family. Trust me they will give you attention, and it could be attention in a way you don't want....but attention in the way you need it.
Seriously, nobody at your school will respect you or give you the reaction that you want and quite honestly if you do show up to school like that you are an attention seeker. Trust me: cry for help to people that actually care, not the most judging group and least sympathetic group of people in the world: teenagers.
Sorry if I sound mean, but this is coming from a parent and sometimes the answer you want to hear isn't always the right answer.Edit: Kirsten's remark needs to be addressed too. You can't seriously believe that she should go to school like that in order to get help? There's better, less shock and awe type ways to get help and it is to seek someone out in private. For one, a close friend would understand and be able to help her cope better whereas if she brings it to the public in her school she will be outcasted from her friends who will be afraid to associate with this girl because the rest of the school will be cruel towards her.
I don't know if she can bring it up to her family, but it would seriously save her from bullying and all kinds of humiliation if she can handle this privately instead of making a scene at school. Her suggestion of wanting to do it alone is ridiculous and I'm sorry but she needs to understand that and not be encouraged to do it.
Everyone has scars, and showing weakness is only okay if you can trust the people around you to not take advantage of you. Wear your weakness on your sleeve and you become a target.
I think that showing your pain takes great strength. No one should see it as weakness and moreover, you should not care. I think it would be more beautiful if you had only scars, not fresh cuts, to show not only what you've been through but what you've overcome and defeated, but the fact that you are dealing with it and being strong at school regardless of your struggles says a lot. however, angelM has a point, someone culd call in your parents or send you to a hospital. If that will help you with healing I think you should. You would gain some control back by putting yourself out there, gain some friends' understanding, and even if you do get sent to a hospital, it sounds like it can only help you. I hope if you do it, it takes you someone you want to be<3 best of luck!
you cant be serious........scars are not trophies in the REAL world. By cutting you have allowed that pain to define you and by scaring, you have allowed that to define you forever. I think you need to get your shit together .
Honestly, no I don't think it would be a good idea. Like @robin said, scars are not trophies. By showing everyone your cuts and scars they will rethink their opinions of you and unfortunately since most people don't understand cutting, their opinions will most likely change for the negative. I know from experience, I am not a cutter, but my arms are covered in track marks. When people see my arms they instantly judge me. They don't take the time to get to know me as a person, they have a negative opinion about me right from the start. Cutting does not define you. You should let people judge you based on your personality not by your scars. Thats not to say that you should go around hiding your scars forever, but by suddenly revealing them to everyone like that you will shock people and the reaction you get will probably not be a positive one. Please get help. You need to talk to your family and close trustworthy friends about this and make them understand what is going on and why you cut. I know it is a hard thing to do, but they will help and support you instead of unfairly judging you like others might.