Is there hope for me and my ex?

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My ex and I are both 17 and we’ve known each other since elementary school. we lost contact after we went to separate schools. I ‘re-met’ him at one of his volleyball games and we started texting right away and hit it off immediately. We were inseparable and started to date 3 days after I re-met him. We dated for two weeks before I became ‘weak’ and sent a half nude picture to a guy friend who likes me in celebration of his birthday. Granted I knew it was wrong but I never thought my ex would find out. Him and I were in love and he cared for me so much and I the same for him. Well he found out when I asked him to check my facebook for me the one day. He went into my messages and saw the picture. For the next few days, we struggled with whether we should stay together or if we should just break things off. Well if you saw, I refer to him as my ex so I guess you can figure out what happened. Him and I both agree that it is good to be friends with your exes. Right after we broke up (literally the same day) we were texting and just talking about normal stuff like friends. This happened two weeks into April and we are still talking. He has openly admitted that he still likes me but I know for a fact that he doesn’t love me anymore. We talk everyday and hang out constantly. I don’t know what to think. I have that feeling in my gut that we will forever be friends but I wish we’d be something more. I guess what I am asking is do you think there is a chance for him and I to date again. My mom said I should wait it out because she thinks we will date again but I am beginning to doubt it even though he talks to me every day and is my bet friend. Does anyone have advice as to what I should do?

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: any hope Best Friend ex boyfriend love asked June 23, 2014

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joverload14

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I hope you're okay. Now, I get where you're both coming from. One of my exes told me that they see their girlfriends as being 'theirs' and anything to violate that requires an automatic discontinuation of their trust. (I'm sorry if I'm generalizing here, I'm just speaking off of my own experiences). To be honest, being able to text and talk immediately after breaking up "as friends" seems like it might have been asking a bit much from the both of you. I understand that you want to be in eachother's lives but the transition from boyfriend-girlfriend to being friends again, does require time, depending on the relationship. For example, if it was a fling, it would be easier to make the transition, compared to a year long relationship, perhaps. I think you need to think about what you want and be respectful and accepting of what he wants, because you can't force a relationship and earning back trust isn't as easy as it sounds. Best of luck and if it doesn't go the way you wanted, be willing to settle for friendship or focus on you because you could get hurt trying to fix it. I hope this helped! :)

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Elsa

I have gone through something similar. Even though things seem hard and you feel like you guys will be nothing more than friends, I believe there is a chance you guys could get back together. You should stay positive about it because you never know what could happen :) I think that you should just give it time. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now and we went through some rough times in the past and ended up breaking up for awhile. Our relationship was mostly great, we were super close, we loved each other very much and we basically did everything together. After 2 months of being single and not seeing or speaking to each other, I called him and asked him to meet so we could talk (because I still loved him and i wanted to get back). When we met up, I told him how I felt and we talked about our relationship and why things went down the way that they did.. we also talked about how we could avoid the things that ruined our relationship in the first place. We eventually both agreed to give it another go. Basically what i'm trying to say is, Listen to your mom!! I think you should take it slow… give it time, and then when you think you're ready.. try to talk to him about it. Btw.. It's great that you guys are still bonding and building a good friendship. Use it to your advantage. Good luck !! : )

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Since you guys are always talking, why don't you try to ask him if you guys could give it another shot? (In a friendly way) And be prepared for the answer. If he says "Yes" then that's good. apologize to him and reassure him.

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