So there’s this girl that I’ve known for a good while. And we used to like each other a lot but whenever she feels she’s getting too close to me, she pushes away and will ignore or talk very little to me for a while. And when she does she goes to another guy to spend all her time with and she says she does it to avoid getting hurt and to not start drama but don’t you think that starts more drama and hurts, if not her, me a lot more? I always write her these long messages to show that I care for her and that I’m trying to fix things for us but she’ll never write a long message or when she does she half-asses it and barely writes anything or avoids questions. She used to be really amazing with me, we were so close talking all day long and making each other happy all the time. But now she seems like she cares but doesn’t truly seem like she does. She lies to me, says she’s going to go to bed but ends up just playing games with the guy or talking to him. I’m not clingy, I give her tons of space, we barely send one or two messages now. I’m trying to drop the drama and put everything back to normal but she just treats me like nothing. She says that her frontal lobe is still developing (she’s 18) and that she doesn’t know what she wants and that she’s just confused with stuff. But, I think that’s BS and she’s just saying that as an excuse to justify what she does. I can’t seem to get myself to just forget about her, it’s much harder than it seems. I care about her so much that I don’t want to lose her, but I just don’t know what to do. Any advice please?
