Is he falling out of love? :(

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So I am not sure if my boyfriend loves me/ is falling out of love. So we attend the same college and have been really really good friends since last september (since we were freshmen). Him, me and we have another guy best friend and we hung out all the time, together with a bunch of others. Then this feb, we started to date. He never had a gf before and he is the kind of person who is not super social, if you know what I mean. So I was actually the one who asked him out first, and he told me that he likes me back, and since then, he has been wonderful. He gives me flowers, tells me I am awesome/ beautiful, stuff like that.

But we are having to spend the summer apart. He is doing an internship with our college’s IT department, and I am working for our college’s IT department too (but online, from home; he is the one who assigns tasks to me actually). So we haven’t seen each other since May 25th and I go back in 25 days (august 16th). He has planned on a 2-week vacation with me, before classes start. However, I feel like lately, he isn’t talking much to me :( . Like earlier during this summer, we would talk on facebook a lot, and skype like 2-3 times every week. He would complement me a lot too (like in a romantic way). But over the past week or two, we haven’t been talking much on fb anymore. Like he sends me a “hi” as soon as he wakes up, and then it’s like “what’s up?” “not much”, and that’s all about it, if I do not try to drive the conversation forward. We skype like once a week (and maybe even once every 8-10 days). He tells me that he games with his best friend (the 3rd guy friend), which I am sure of, cause I am gamer too, and I can see that they are playing a game together. I can’t play since my net speed isn’t fast enough at home. And then he reads about comp sci stuff (he is computer nerd). I mean, I am SURE there is no other woman, so that’s not a concern. But I just feel like we aren’t talking much, and then, today, I told him “I think we are not talking much :( “. And he replied saying “I think we are talking a good amount. It’s just that we talked a lot earlier.” And then he did talk to me a fair bit after that, about our vacation. And then we decided to buy a tent for camping (we will camp for a night too), and I told him that I can pay half the amount (since we’ll be camping together). He said he would rather pay for the whole thing himself, since it’s better if one person has ownership of the tent/ other camping stuff (which upset me a bit too, since I felt like he doesn’t want to maybe share something useful in the long term with me, if you get what I mean :( ). Plus I feel that we are not talking much, so wondering if that’s a bad sign :( .

Like I genuinely miss him , and want to skype, so him not wanting it that much makes me feel like he doesn’t miss me :( .

Tags: asked July 21, 2013

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I think you are just over the 'honeymoon' period of the relationship. I don't think he is falling out of love with you; rather you are just going through another phase of relationships. You can't expect a guy to buy you flowers all the time and tell you you are beautiful and whatnot everyday you know? It doesn't mean he loves you any less it's just not the honeymoon period anymore. If you miss him just tell him that or maybe you're just being a little paranoid because you think he doesn't love you anymore. Believe me I'm sure he does, since he's new to relationships he probably enjoys his independence. I can relate to your boyfriend because I like my space and my boyfriend is the clingy one and he tells me he misses me all the time and stuff and I explained to him that I don't need to talk to him everyday; I have my own life and friends and do I love him? Of course I just don't need to tell him that to know it. So talk about it with him just so you're sure that his feelings are still there. As for the camping tent stuff, some boys just like paying for everything so he's just being polite and not to be negative or anything but if you payed for half and say you broke up or something it'd be a little awkward if you tried to split the stuff in half you know? Not saying that you will just saying, but most likely he's being polite. Again you just need to communicate with him, my boyfriend and I go to colleges across the united states and sometimes we get busy with school and whatnot so we plan 'skype dates' a few times a week we can or at least once a week. I know it's only a temporary distance living situation but just saying since you miss him and all. Anyway if you have any questions just ask me because I feel like I have your relationship haha, just reversed roles so I've definitely gone through this stuff. So message me anytime, anyway have a good one.