I’m scare to leave. I’m scared to stay

i speak from experience on his part. i can understand that he doesn't want to seek help because he is prideful and wants to beat this on his own. My own pride was the downfall in my relationship, i too have had the same problems that your husband has had beside the debt part. Sadly for me it took losing my finace forever to seek the help and the changes that i needed. I still regret that to this day even though i nolonger want my fiance back because it would never be the same. I have one question, if he wasn't the man for you then why did you marry him? To me that seems like your either lying to yourself or to him and that you never desired him which if he knows this could also be one of the reasons he has been having ups and downs. All i can really say is if you truely love him then never give up, if he truely isn't the man you want, then you should leave him. On a personal note i know how devestating that can be, losing my fiance almost killed me, i was what she wanted but at the same time i wsn't. she wanted the young party girl lifestyle, i offered the stable secure relationship. just dont do something you'll regret later.

First of all, don't be afraid of being alone. Love doesn't happen for everyone, but anyone who looks for it can find happiness.I know how it feels to feel trapped, but things will work themselves out. Take my words with a grain of salt though, as I cannot fully understand your situation without knowing you. Based on your description of your situation, it seems to me that the right thing to do for yourself would be to start looking for a good lawyer and talk divorce. If you're this unhappy now, my personal opinion would be that staying in like this would only make you become more miserable. I've been in a similar situation (just throw drugs and alcohol into the mix!) but even though it was excruciating, once the divorce process was over, there was a HUGE sense of relief.Good luck.