Check in with your college to see if they have a free or low cost counseling center (most colleges do). If they do, sign up to start seeing a therapist. they cannot reveal any information to anyone unless you threaten your life or the life of others. So anything you tell them, will be safe. You can ask them for advice on how to come out, if you're ready to come out. they can help you find healthy coping mechanisms for your depression and/or may refer you to a psychiatrist. They may also be able to help you find resources to help take care of your children (day care, if need be, stuff like that). I hope things get better for you dear, you can always message me if you ever need to talk privately.