I really2 hate my dad, please help me

My dad is such a fucking jerk, he isn’t dad material, like for god sake he’s super annoying, hedoesn’t work, my mom does. So he just keep asking my mom for money, and he’s really pushing her. I love my mom she’s an angel to me. But my dad keep hurting her. My dad likes to yell, raise his voice, and etc. I’m not close to my dad since I was born. He likes to punish me when I was a kid. Now he’s just like a piece of shit that live on the same roof with me. He doesn’t work, he hurts my mom, he waste my mom’s money, I fucking hate him. I know this is bad but some part of me want my mom to divorce with my dad/he’s dead, i’m sure things will be better if me and my mom doesn’t live with him. Is there anyway that I could forgive him? Because I never talk to him like dad and daughter, you know. I never tell him anything about my life so did he. So do you think I can forgive him? How? Or what I feel is right that my mom should left him?

Category: Family Tags: dad asked June 9, 2015

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5 Answers

There's nothing wrong with hating him, even if he is your father. Just because someone helped in you being born, doesn't mean you should have unlimited tolerance for their behavior. I wish there was an easy solution for your problem, but unfortunately this is an all-too-common thing. Really, it comes down to him and your mom, and if she insists on keeping him around, there's nothing you can do. Don't think you're a bad person for the way you feel, it's completely normal and understandable. Maybe one day he'll change for the better and you can find forgiveness. But don't ever beat yourself up for caring about your mom, because I think you are absolutely in the right.

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Jaxon

my dad did suicide when I was 9. I thought I hated him to at such a young age. but I promise the second he is gone, you'll want him back in a heart beat.

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maddie ann

I agree with Olivia, maybe try talking to your Mum and tell her how your Dad is making you feel, she may have no idea of the effect he is having on you. Maybe she'll be able to mediate between the two of you and help find a way to be a happier family. Don't live in silence though, the longer you keep quiet the more you'll resent him and the harder it will be to ever have a relationship with your parents. On a side note, I hated my own father until well into my early twenties, it's only now that I'm forgiving him for things he did earlier on in the life so don't feel guilty for your feelings towards him, from what you've said, he should make more of an effort but that's just an opinion. Good luck though, I hope you find the solution you were hoping for

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SophieG

I think you should talk to your mom. Maybe she will understand. Sometimes women stay in a terrible marriages for the sake of their children.

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Olivia

I love my daddy, he is the best dad every. On the other hand my mom was an evil manipulative whore who fucked over my dad and only cared about getting high. I am so glad that she left and if I ever see her face again, I will punch her right in her whore mouth!

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AnnieH

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