I hate my bf’s dad

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and we’re completely happy together. I met some of his family members and we all get along. I have no met his dad, he will not take anytime to get to know so he decides he will talk crap. He is now trying to hook his son (my boyfriend) up with his new fiance’s friend because she’s a “model with big boobs”. My boyfriend is defending our relationship (i love him for it) and the dad does not even care. I seriously despise this man and I don’t even know him. He barely bothers with his son and feeds his false hope. He claimed that my boyfriend was not his son before and beat him up several times. I want him out of our lives completely. He will never be invited to our wedding or in our children’s lives. He is a narcissistic ass. I try to like him and give him chances, but I’ve reached the point where I can no longer give two craps about him.

Am I right for having these feelings and should i even attempt to get along with him at this point?

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: boyfriends dad father in law girlfriend pissed off asked February 19, 2015

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Blackhawks19

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I think you should just play the nice girl and don't try to attract him to you because you don't know what he is capable of since he beat up your boyfriend.I personally think you should accept him in your heart because sooner or later he will change and become a better person.So, the feelings you are getting aren't wrong because a normal person will obviously feel that way. Show him how good you are for his son. What about your boyfriend's mom?

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vanilla___

That man is dangerous and there is no reason for you to associate with him. I would avoid him as much as possible, and be honest with your boyfriend that you dont think he's good for anyone in the family. You are not wrong for feeling this way. Never feel guilty for wanting to cut toxic people out of your life.

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Ivy

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Unfortunately people like that rarely change. Just stay strong with your man, and only speak to his Dad if he (for whatever reason) speaks to you.Short, sweet, and to the point lol

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Danyell

Thanks for the reply... I honestly don't think his dad will ever change unless he was alone in life. He tries to control his children even while they're adults and hates his daughters husband because of his ethnicity. I KNOW i am good for my boyfriend and i KNOW he loves me, but what he is doing is wrong. He won't even take the chance to get to know me so how am I supposed to show him I'm good for his son? I don't need to prove that to him because I owe him nothing. I get along with his mom, she loves me. The dad and mom are divorced. This is the dad's 3rd marriage in 4 years so that's how he is.

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Blackhawks19

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I Totally have been there. My ex-boyfriends father tried to do the same thing! (not a model or anything like that) But He also talked alot of shit about me and how i was such a horrible person.... It didnt stop until after i stood up for myself and told him how it was going to be, after that things changed. Thats all it took for me anyways. it could completley backfire for you though...

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FireFeather