I feel lost

I don’t know what i should do anymore.This year i find my really close guy friend to be obnoxious, immature, and just slacks in the things he does, In rotc he always says that he is going to do a job just so he can mess with people. but he ends up getting fired. i appreciate that he cares about me but sometimes he can inconsiderate, and doesnt tell me whats wrong when he is sad or depressed. Heck he didnt want to tell me that my other close friend helen didnt want him to tell me that my boyfriend was going to break up with me. i had to drag the information out of him. What makes it worse is that helen is close friends with my ex. Helen on the otherhand is childish, selfish, takes and takes, i feel like i fix most of her relationship problems. she believes that her boyfriend is her”soulmate” but when he gets angry he hits her when they are in an argument. he got her on a pregnancy scare twice. i honestly dont know what to do. not only that i’m pretty much on my own for most of the day. My ex’s friends dislike me right now. in color guard i feel like i’m left out when the girls start talking. i feel like one of my friends ashley is mad at me because i was talking to this girl named penny instead of her at the lunch table. i was so engrossed in talking with penny that i barely noticed that ashley went up and left after she ate. i mean i was listening to penny and talking to her. i have this thing where i can only talk to one person at a time. i feel like a jerk for not talking to ashley and i’m going to apologize to her. i’m trying to get over my breakup. i feel like my half of me was crushed and left to die in some pit of dispair, i’ve been pretty much battling this out on my own because its obvious that my friends don’t care that my ex broke up with me and that i’m pretty upset about it. i’m starting to miss blake all over again, i want to talk to blake again but i’m scared that he wont talk to me. i think now Logan and Adam( some of my exes friends) are about the only ones who don’t care about the breakup. Jaime is supposed to text me more information about being historian for ROTC but she never did so i’m pretty much on my own again. i’m usually used to being on my own but for once in my life, i dont want to be on my own. i dont know

Category: Dating & Relationships asked August 22, 2013

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Odd One

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have faith and keep focused....yea, maybe kinda hard to do with all the distractions, but this situtation will change on tis own sometimes in life all we can do is hang on for the ride.....(figure of speech) bottom line nothing ever stays the same and i wish you the best, and believe it or not, i think one day you will look back on these days and say to yourself, they (these moments in time) wern't so bad afterall!

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Robin

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if you really feel like there is nobody to hang out with to wait out all the situations you should try occupying yourself with other ordeals/situations. dragging the answer out of someone is not the way to approach something unless it is something vital. continuously asking someone to tell you something and them not feeling comfortable sharing it with you yet is not always because of a trust reason. a lot of times the person just feels uncomfortable telling nearly everyone about it. wait until that person is okay with telling you them self and still slowly work out the situation. do your best to hang through all the fuss happening in your life, i know its not easy to go through but the best thing you can do is not let it sit on your mind for too long

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lychgate

Hi! There are a lot of characters in this story. I personnaly have a bit of a hard time identifying all of them but well, aha it's late.
Between all these persons, you should first sort them out. Who are the ones who really count? Those who don't, just forget a bit about them. It may be difficult, but you shouldn't care about the judgements the ones not so dear to you make about you.
At the end of your text, you mentionned Jaime. She's supposed to text you but she doesn't. Maybe she's a bit busy, or maybe she just doesn't want to bother you, whatever, we don't know! Why not text her, as she doesn't seem to bear any grudge against you?
You are never alone. You just think you're on your own but there will always be someone there for you, someone to listen. A friend, a member of your family, people on this site!
Don't feel so bad for stuff you didn't do on purpose. Remember that it's ok to hurt other people's feelings sometimes! It won't make them totally mad at you, or make them dislike you. Everyone has their ups and downs, everyone knows it. Everyone has the right not to talk to someone at a given time, get sad, angry or anything. You can't please everyone all the time and that doesn't make you least of a wonderful person. (:
I'm sure that there are some people out there who would be pleased to hang out with you. Be confident!

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Lou