Everyone judges, all the time. Anyone who'll read this will judge me for what I'm writing. It's normal to be judged and to judge, it's part of social analysis and interaction. We compare what is around us to what we have experienced and to our beliefs (mostly of what is wrong or not). You are most definitively not lost. Nobody's lost unless they have a brain condition where they lack memory. You know pretty much where you are, and what you have and have not, and what you want and don't want. You might be confused about all of it, but you're not lost. See, I'm being judgmental, and it surprisingly feels alright, you should try it.