I fear if he loses interest.. it is worth to try? what would you do?

This guy came to Canada as an exchange at my university last September.

We started out as friends but he started having feelings for me and I also knew there was something that made my heart smile. The bitter truth was that he would go back to Europe in January.

We both agreed not to get into a relationship but as time passed by, our feelings became deeper and also started getting to know each other on a different level.

After exams in December, we did everything together every day. As he had planned to go travelling for a month on the way home, he asked me to come to his first destination Chicago with him after New Year. So yes, we went to Chicago for a week.

He is shy and doesn’t show his feelings much but a few days before we got separated in Chicago, he suddenly started tearing and gave me a surprise gift an old history book.

the day before the last day, he asked me to do my internship in his country from June to October. I told him if there is an opportunity then I will. He’s looking for jobs that I might like in his country for me.

Now he is with his friend who will be travelling together for the rest of his trip for 3 weeks.
He sends me only a couple of messages every day and no calls…he can only contact me when there is WIFI though…
we just got separated, doesn’t he want to talk to me more? He doesn’t even ask me what I am doing or did…

I was ignoring his message yesterday because I suddenly felt fear about sooner he loses interest because we were together only for a couple of months… and we are still 22..
He was worried so I messaged him back.
He said “I am sorry if I made you feel bad.. Don’t forget it’s not a long time til we see each other though.”

Today, the only message I got was “it was such a long day and I am so tired.. hope you had a great day:) good night, kisses!”

I feel fear.. I try to avoid him before he loses his feelings for me. if you were me, would you keep in touch?

asked January 14, 2015

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sarah

6 Answers

I wouldn't worry too much Sarah! After all he is continuing to do his travels, and you know he only messages you when wifi is available, I think it's best that you even get a couple of texts a day, rather than none at all. Don't forget for the rest of his travels, 3 weeks is a short period of time, don't be discouraged and don't doubt his feelings, things will fall into place if they are meant to, you don't really have any control over it due to the fact that you don't get to talk to him as often anymore. Keep yourself busy and don't over think it! Best of luck. x

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CMasterson

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3 weeks will end in a blink of an eye :) just don't lose your hope yet and throw all that negative thinking! Its understandable if he can't contact you when he's still travelling. At least tried to contact him, tell him hows your day or funny things happened that day, tell him you missed him, and how you wish him to stay healthy, etc

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blueberrycheese

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I agree with that's been said above! He's not ignoring you and not chatting you on purpose, he's travelling and unable to, when he is able he does, even if it's not as much as you'd hope it would be. Don't stress out too much, it's only 3 weeks then things will be back to normal. I hope everything works out for you! x

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Kyla

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I agree with everything said above! Also, he could be kind of guy who doesn't really like having contact through text and phone calls? Try not to worry, when you see him again you may realise that perhaps you were overthinking the issue after all :)

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Truthful Turkey

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I think as a girl we naturally get worried. It seems to me he still has feelings for you. You have to remember being 22 you're young. It seems you both are adventurous and are students. So those are priorities right now. It seems like he still cares about you! he gets in contact when he can. I think he is just making the most of his travels at the time. You can't set yourself up to get worried. Best thing to do is relax and wait till he is available! If at any point you feel that he could truly be losing interest or there is a complete separation you can address this as well and see what he says on his side. Long distance is not an easy thing to do. But, it is do-able.

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becausemeagan

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Thank you so much for your reply:') I feel so much better after reading all the comments you guys posted on here. I will stay relax for now and focus on what I need to do. Thank you again xoxo

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sarah